Wholesome crab bucket mentality
“But we’re getting so many views right now, fam…”
How did they get the rope around him lol
And then the people all clapped and patted themselves on the back for saving the guy and went about their day. But the guy went back to the same life full of problems that led him to despair. Crippling debt or depression. Estrangement from loved ones that are no longer willing to reconnect. Loneliness or defamation or disease. It’s easy to save someone from jumping, but this is not help. That is not the help they need. They need constant and long term help, assistance, and support.
Saving a stranger from a suicide attempt has a vibe to it like preventing an abortion from happening without providing any further support for the mother or the child. Congrats, you saved a life, technically. But you did nothing to save the life.
There’s a chance someone else in that crowd understood and began taking daily time to interact with the man. It’s not impossible.
No you dumbass they are going to be sent to get help.
Nearly everyone that attempts suicide and survives regrets trying and are glad they’ve failed.
Sorry for my strong language, but I’ve had friends and loved ones struggle with mental illness. A few have attempted suicide and either failed or have been stopped. I once took a friend’s gun the day before he tried to commit suicide. If I had not done that he would be dead today, but today he is happy. He has a life worth living and is doing infinitely better.
Suicide attempts are a mental health crisis. In that moment that person is not of a sound mind and incapable of making that decision.
This is nothing like going to a doctor and seeking a medical procedure like an abortion. If anything this is like a woman throwing herself down the stairs in an attempt to end a pregnancy. They don’t need to be allowed to throw themselves down the stairs. They need to be stopped and given access to proper medical care.
“Suicide attempts are a mental health crisis. In that moment that person is not of a sound mind and incapable of making that decision.”
That used to be the case for me as a kid. But lately it hasn’t been very emotional. I’m of completely sound mind. I just don’t particularly enjoy being alive anymore. Death seems peaceful. No pain, no taxes, no humans.
A mental health crisis doesn’t need to be emotional. You’ve described acute depression.
If you aren’t seeking it and can access healthcare do so. Things can get better. A lot in the world sucks, I won’t pretend that it doesn’t. But it all can be better even if it seems like it’s not.
I’ve definently cried and held friends after a suicide attempt and cried when taking them to the hospital and cried again numerous times through the process. It was worth it at the end.
Honestly I’d rather have people like you that realizes the flaws of the world around than people who think everything is great. Only those willing to acknowledge the flaws can work towards changing them. Doesn’t even have to be big just little stuff.
Take care of yourself. I know it’s hard to believe a random person cares, but I do. I’ve seen this all play out too often in my short time here to not care
Suicide attempts are a mental health crisis. In that moment that person is not of a sound mind and incapable of making that decision.
I disagree. Life can be awful and people can make rational decisions to die.
“Mental health crisis” and “incapable of making that decision” just are ways of saying “this person must be forced to give money to the mental health system through compliance with druggings and forced in-patient care that they will be billed for.”
You’re likely part of the mental health industry. Only one of “them” would think 30K in additional debt (paid to mental health workers/doctors) is always better than death.
I respect the right to die on your own terms, but when someone attempts suicide in such a public manner, and during the daytime with lots of bystanders around, I feel there’s a chance they might want to be “saved.”
Obviously following up and holistic support would be ideal. But even just putting myself in the shoes of someone walking by, I don’t think I’d be able to just keep walking if I saw someone climbing over the ledge. Just in case.
I had a close older family member attempt when they were in their twenties. They’re in their fifties and a ray of sunshine at family gatherings now. So you never know.
You’re likely part of the mental health industry. Only one of “them” would think 30K in additional debt (paid to mental health workers/doctors) is always better than death.
Not even close lol. A lot of other people can think suicide is bad too.
I’ve seen a lot of loved ones and friends struggle, but they got through. The debt was definently an issue. I’ve seen friends worried to get treatment due to the fear of lost wages and the medical debt. It is hard, but they got help and it all worked out. I do agree that medical debt is terrible and shouldn’t exist though.
This is why I dislike people who stop suicides. It’s their choice and their right. Mind your business, asshole
Ironically though, the ones who are driven to suicide are often the ones you want to keep around. The ones who cause the pain should be removed from our world
Same. My child texted “goodbye” to his friends and they saved him. OC, maybe you’d feel different if the suicide was a loved one, who didn’t tell you how they felt? Fuck any other outcome in my case.
As a person who has been suicidal, I respect this opinion, but as a person who lost multiple family members to suicide, I wish someone had stopped them. The fact that nobody did is what keeps me around though, resentfully, because I don’t think my mom could handle it again. It’s a complicated feeling.
Damn the guy must have felt terrible in that moment.
Well yeah you finally have the knowledge that this earth isn’t worth living in and finally overcame your body’s built in instinct to not die, and some assholes literally force you to stay alive by grabbing onto you like nearly every depiction of hell or hades that has ever existed including tying you to the bridge with ropes.
From a suicidal persons pov that’s exactly what I imagine that would feel like. Also the insane amount of embarrassment from a huge crowd of people that are all there because of you. Some of whom are probably “it’s all in your head” kind of people. It is hard enough to open up and show your feelings to one trusted person, let alone an effin crowd.
That said, the guy that they saved can now say “F you and see you tomorrow” so that’s something.
Oh man I’ve got a couple words for ya.
let alone an effin crowd.
A person can be smart, but people are fucking stupid.
Please don’t you ever equate yourself to what more than one person thinks.
You’ve thought about you more and your opinion is the most valuable when it comes to you. Be yourself at all times. Maybe you’ll do it enough and people will admire it. Maybe you have, just always forget about what others think, it has so much to do with you and so little to do with them.
You can’t share yourself if you’ve already molded it to be everyone else.
Edit: I really hope you don’t read this as malicious or corrective, more of just a please don’t forget about you. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others or where you think others should place you, but they can never ever have your perspective. Just be your best you, and at least one person will love that and feel proud of it. That person will be you.
i get that these people need more help than just being convinced not to do it, but in that moment isn’t talking them out of it the right thing to do?
You don’t know if the man was willing to be saved at this point, he may have been in a situation where he wasn’t able to hold himself up. Also this appears to not be the US, I assume they have their own cultural views on suicide and often cultures do have longer term solutions for people who are suicidal, Some cultures in Africa will take a normal workday off as a group and have a public celebration of sorts they will stay in the sun most of the day and community members will all individually take time to talk to the community member in need and show effort to spend time with them about anything at all, they rarely talk about their troubles is what I understand. There are approaches that differ from the west and there’s places with less stigma.