213 points

Who wants to watch softcore nonsense involving people doing things that are not how sex actually works? Gen Z is first gen to come of age when porn is prolific. Mainstream film can’t compete with step siblings getting stuck on the interwebs.

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132 points

You don’t make passionate love to your wife while she’s wearing all her clothes and wake up in the morning with her wearing full makeup?

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59 points

Where do we get the L-shaped blankets?

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61 points

Porn is really not how sex actually works

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45 points

I think porn gets it more right than Hollywood does. People in porn at least successfully take their pants off.

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25 points

And no Hollywood, all women don’t have an orgasm in 30 seconds! Movie sex would be extremely disappointing in real life.

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5 points

The Olympics is not how normal people exercise either

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48 points

As an elder millennial, porn has been prolific longer than you think. Late 90s and early 2000s LAN parties were half playing video games and half copying vast amounts of porn from each other.

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And how many people went to LAN parties?

Those were the Nerds, the weirdos that spent halft their free time on a computer and talking about how to get faster internet. For the “cool kids” i think a lot were the magazines or someone stealing a VCR from their dads private collection.

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Stealing a VCR. Oh man…

The VCR was the player. You might call the tape or cassette a VHS, as there were two types of cassette. The other less popular being beta max.

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8 points

It was more mainstream than you’d think in Norway at least. I was easily the nerdiest one at the local one I attended at the time.

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4 points

Every town and city I ever went in the early 2000s to had multiple crowded LAN centers. It was definitely mainstream, and definitely wasn’t just geeks. Pretending file sharing was not mainstream by 2000 is like pretending Star Wars is only for nerds.

Way out of touch.

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4 points

Eeh, swede here but a majority of men in my generation (90s) were probably at dreamhack at one point or another during their teens. Not to mention homeparties. Girls is less obviously but many of those went too

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I’ve also found that gen z aren’t as sex crazed as we were, I felt like I had a monkey on my back and had to screw everything. Gen z is more aware of the consequences, and they have other shit to keep them occupied, we were bored a lot.

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10 points

Lolol millennials had online porn from before early puberty for all but the most seniors of them.

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21 points

Most senior? Gen X here. I got my porn from the Internet too. Just before the web existed. We used Usenet and Gopher.

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All 12 of you 🤣

I went on the side of caution. At some point early 90s, it became more popular outside of the limited users of computers.

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41 here. No internet before puberty. I remember watching late night TV hoping for a few seconds of smooching and maybe even boobs.

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Most of us had it, but most were on things like family computers trying to be covert about it. Capacitive touch screen phones changed everything for access. No one was getting imaginative with the snake game on a Nokia 3310 back in the day.

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3 points

Kinks have diversified. Main stream can’t catch up!

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137 points

Millennial here. I’ve always found random sex scenes obnoxious. It completely kills the pacing and pulls me out of the story. If you need sex for character development, you can much more easily allude to it and move on. The only time I can think of when it actually made sense for the story was in the movie Her and it was such a mild scene that didn’t have any visuals.

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32 points

I think it worked for some early GOT moments too. It showed the monster that Khal Drogo really was, for example

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2 points

She gave consent in the book, although she was still only like 14 because George RR Martin is a creeper. So not really consent, but not quite like the show.

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2 points

calling him a creep for using historically accurate depictions of medieval marriage is…going a bit far…

the story is set in a medieval world. so how is it creepy to use real medieval culture in the context of the story?

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5 points

It was cool as shit in blade runner 2049

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2 points

I somehow feel like my life has been enriched.

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2 points

The only time I can think of when it actually made sense for the story…

Never watched I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry?

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87 points

I’m with Gen Z here. They’re absolutely right

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65 points

Just feels awkward, uncomfortable, and unnecessary most of the time.

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15 points

I don’t feel like it’s awkward or uncomfortable, but I do hate it when it’s completely unnecessary. I don’t even care if the sex is unrealistic as long as it’s necessary for the plot. Just Chekhov’s gun that shit.

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2 points

Especially with many audiences. On your own or with a romantic partner it’s not nearly as bad, but watching a sex scene with pretty much anyone else feels so awkward, which pulls you out of the scene.

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0 points

same tbh

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Amen , I am millenial and I too find it very uncomfortable. When I was young I was eagerly waiting for some hot scenes when porn was scarce but now anything remotely sexual iRRitates me.

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Yup, especially as a gay, sex scenes in movies have always been “I’m fine with straight people existing, but I don’t want them rubbing my face in it” at best … and it’s rarely at best, with all the chemistry of a jar of nitrogen.

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Yep. 46 years old here and agree 100%. I find them gratuitous and awkward in a standard show or movie. And I have no problem with porn.

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70 points

I’m not Gen Z and I hate the damn sex scenes. There was a minute there where netflix would just add one within 15 mins of every show or movie, even if they never showed another one again. It never added to the plot and seemed like it was just there to reel people in. But, it was obnoxious.

Glad they sort of stopped that, although I still find it happens now and again. Hopefully this puts the nail in the coffin.

Maybe I am a prude. So what!

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The issue for me isn’t the sex, it’s that the scene is irrelevant to the plot. If the sex is relevant to the plot I don’t mind, but when it’s obviously just slotted in to show tits, that’s annoying because it breaks immersion for me. It makes me think about the agenda behind adding that scene instead of thinking about the story I’m watching.

Obvious product placement is kind of in the same category for me. Like Will Smith in I, Robot spending 5 minutes of the movie super excited about receiving some “vintage 2004 Converse All Stars”. Like, the movie is set in 2035, but you just had to find a way to plug this year’s model of some shoes. Sure, those shoes have looked the same since forever, but the 2004 ones were just something else, man!

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11 points

Then he gets into his Audi (everyone else is driving Audis too), and then out of his Audi, then back in his Audi, and so on. Audi.

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24 points

It’s awkward seeing scenes like that unfold with other people like friends and family. Implying a scene and fading to black is more than enough. And I think many actors would be happier too not having to act out those scenes.

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5 points

Not a prude, and I still FF Netflix sex scenes.

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4 points

Too many people tried to emulate the vulgarity of game of thrones. It worked in game of thrones, it doesn’t work everywhere.

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Hmm. I haven’t really thought about it much. Why do I, a porn enjoying man from smack in the middle of the Millennial generation, dislike so many Hollywood sex scenes?

I would be interested in gathering some data, take a large sample of movies and TV shows made during my lifetime, and rate them as to why they’re in a film. What purpose do they serve in the story, what do they tell us about the characters…why is this here?

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67 points

Am a millennial. Sex scenes in movies should follow a simple formula: don’t do sex scenes, or do real sex scenes.

All that softcore, sex under the sheets while wearing a bra nonsense only serves to make watching it with family a bit awkward. Either make it a movie that stands on its own, or make a movie where I can actually watch celebrity people fuck in full explicitness.

Make it porn or not, both is fine, but don’t try to appeal to both sides. That’s just awkward and frustrating to either

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Here’s the twist. We show it. We show all of it.

https://youtu.be/Ftoffknbrfc?si=9pfHb5eV4SRbqbwV

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Because what’s the one major thing missing from all action movies these days, guys? Full penetration. Guys, we’re going to show full penetration, and we’re going to show a lot of it.

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Team America did it right. They went all the way and I loved it.

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It makes me happy that somewhere, someone, is reading your comment with no knowledge of the scene you’re referring to. I hope they search for it and are delighted.

Edit: And I agree 100%.

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Not a millennial but broadly agree with you.

It’s also just so … base … like, ok, your characters bonk, we get it, just fade to black. When did a sex scene add anything to a story other than titillation? It’s the equivalent of serving me up another algorithmically targeted TikTok video. I feel like they’re just taking advantage of me.

So, in short, I’d be happy if they leave that shit at the door. If I was searching for porn, I’d know where to look.

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4 points

I think you touched on it here. Back in the day ppl wanted those sex scenes. Now we have porn and don’t need them for titillation

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3 points

Desperado did it right.

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