things are in fact going extremely badly but we’ll see if they pick up starting tomorrow night for reasons that will preclude me being here for about a week (seeing my SO)

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I’m at the airport right now, about to leave for a week long vacation to Hawaii! I’ve never been before so it’ll be a super fun way to celebrate my one year anniversary with my wife!

Sorry to hear about the rough times OP. From one human being to another, keep doing your best and know that there’s another human somewhere hoping you are well. Cheers.

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My week has been pretty good, I work in a library so I spend my lunch digitizing any book I want or at least feel that it should be saved digitally.

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That’s cool! I used to work in a bookstore but always felt like it was trying to put a price on reading. Library would feel a lot homier for me I feel. Thank you for what you do! If it weren’t for Libraries as a kid I probably would have never fallen in love with reading.

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Sorry to hear about the rough times OP. From one human being to another, keep doing your best and know that there’s another human somewhere hoping you are well. Cheers.

i’m not very optimistic but we’ll see. a fundamental problem is i’m locked into my living situation for the foreseeable future unless something crazy happens, and my current living situation is constant and droning suicide fuel. also not really in a position to seek mental health professionals

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I hope things get better for you!

My week is starting off alright tbh. Been having bad neck pains. Work feels stale, home feels stale, gym feels stale, personal life feels stale.

I recently stopped talking to one of my best friends and after that, our group disbanded. Luckily I have a girlfriend and she keeps me sane, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss going out and getting drunk as a group of like 6 of us lol

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Sorry to hear that bud. I recently stopped talking to my best friend and our friend group after their response to my wife’s pregnancy and miscarriage. Basically made us feel like a burden while she was pregnant, and with two exceptions, the other 10 people said nothing after the miscarriage.

Sucks to cut contact after 15 years, but he still did nothing after I talked to him about this. Ultimately, I think it was for the best, but it still blows when your supposed support system fails you.

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I’m so sorry you all had to go through that. I hope you and your wife are doing well.

I had to stop talking to him because he SA’d two (maybe three) of my female friends and he attempted to do the same to my girlfriend. It was on my birthday and I invited all of my friends to drink, play board games, and just chill out.

I feel bad that such a bad thing happened to my friends at my party, and I regret not noticing he was like that earlier. Looking back, he had some red flags but I didn’t know he was capable of something like that. Maybe I was just being naive.

Ultimately, I think it was for the best, but it still blows when your supposed support system fails you.

I really agree with that. Thank you for your response

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Thank you, doing better with time.

That’s fucked man. I wouldn’t blame yourself for trusting someone not to be a piece of shit. I’m glad you acted when you found out, and hopefully he faces consequence for his actions

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Doing OKish, runnning very low on my cannabis which is stressing me out a bit thanks to slow delivery times, which is bad because cannabis is what keeps my mental health stable without ADHD medication, which I’m still like a month away from getting.

So I feel insanely restless and can’t focus on shit to save my life, even bought a new game and just can’t sit down and play it for longer than 20 or 30 minutes at the most. Hope things improve for you OP.

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Not so great. My mom died a week ago, I got fired 6 weeks into paid family leave and I’ve started to realize that drinking is becoming a habit :(

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Im so sorry to hear about your mother passing last week. We love you so much here, and there are people that care about you. jobs come and go, and they always are going to look out for their best interests. I think it takes a lot of courage to recognize a growing bad habit, I hope you can find a healthier outlet to process your stress and griefs.

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Thank you. Yeah, I’ve been applying to places but a lot of job postings these days are scams. Alcoholism killed my brother just under 2 years ago so I generally try not to drink. Ironic eh? :/

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I’ve found that stress and grief cause me to be somewhat self destructive so that isn’t surprising to me. Take care of yourself. Although you’ll carry your mom’s death forever, the pain will get better and the joyful memories that you have will get their color back. Hang in there. We’re all rooting for you!

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Holy shit, I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m happy to lend an ear if you need it, just send me a pm or hit me on Matrix.

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That’s awful I’m so sorry 🫂. I hope things turn around for you

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Honestly hope is what keeps me going. Thank you.

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I just found out that my car insurance was cancelled due to a billing error and now I’m driving uninsured until next week… My anxiety has been through the roof for a week now because of this and so so many other things. I feel like my life is teetering on the edge right now. But honestly it’s probably not that bad. What I really need is a med adjustment for anxiety… I am catastrophizing everything lately. I just need to get calm.

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Hang in there chief. The insurance lapse will be merely a blip in the future, so, try to stay focused on number one. Breathe, and make sure you take time to care for your damn self. Nobody can benefit from your awesomeness if you worry yourself to death.

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