I have kids that I raise, they are great kids, I love them to death but if someone thinks kids aren’t a burden (of any sort) than they’re lying.
Who tf thinks they aren’t a burden, how is this an unpopular opinion?
Trust me, there are people who think it’s a sin to use the word “burden” when speaking of kids. They are insane IMO
There’s so much stigma around this sort of thing. It’s getting better, but the mindset that children are a gift and parents should be constantly grateful for that gift is still very prevalent.
The reality is that whilst children are absolutely incredible, life affirming and all that good stuff…an awful lot of being a parent is frankly, horrible.
In the history of the world, probably only baby boomers and maybe some of X thought this. Any time else in history, kids are there only due to the desire to fuck. Hell, the Romans drove a plant extinct with their need for birth control.
Today on wildly popular opinion
https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/happiness-spigot
Best summary to this topic I’ve ever seen.
Literally standing in my kitchen right now reading this at 645am, awake since 4 because my sick 2 year old has been crying and screaming non stop, my wife in bed upstairs with our 2 day old new born, and I’m covered in peanut butter trying to make a nutritious lunch for my 5 year old for school. I have to wake her up soon to get her started. Make eggs for breakfast.
Her booster seat isn’t fitting in the middle seat between my sons car seat and infant newborn car seat. So I have to fix that before we leave. My son is most likely drawing on the walls in the entertainment room.
And before 9 I need to feed the chickens and relieve my wife from her sleepless night with a newborn.
Burden is an understatement. Having a sore back is a burden. Having kids is a dynamic lifestyle change. And while sometimes I imagine not having kids and how amazing it would be to be free from that lifestyle, it always comes to the same conclusion: I wouldn’t exchange my family life for anything. My children are me and I wouldn’t remove them as much as I wouldn’t remove my back because it was sore.
First of all, keep up the good work, it sounds like you’re an awesome dad and husband my man. I never wanted kids but I now have 6, some of them put me through some shit but I wouldn’t trade any of it for a child-free life.
A crazy amount of things, dem ass and titties, a partner you think you’d be together with forever, a partner that didn’t believe in abortions, having one kid and thinking it wasn’t so bad, lying to myself that it’d be no more than 2, did I mention dem ass and titties? Those can be so persuasive when the little guy is doing the thinking.
Children ARE a burden but entitled parents are a bigger burden.
