Had a homeless guy get right in my face and shouted UGLY!
I know that probably has more to do with his life than mine, but it’s hard not to take it personally and wonder if it’s what everyone else is too polite to say.
It’s, as you have already said, most likely an emotional issue on his side.
There is no such thing as “the beauty standard”.
Well, yeah. I agree beauty is a flawed, racist, social construct that is just societal opinions in bulk. But money is also a fake social construct that has very real affects on everyday life. We can deconstruct the term “beauty” all night, but that doesn’t change the lived reality of being called ugly having a real, genuine, hurtful effect on my self esteem.
I cancelled to go to a thank you dinner that was organised for a thing I volunteer at. It was a few hours before and I was feeling really sick but up until that point I didn’t think it was that bad. Most people in the group chat said to feel better soon but one of the organisers posted a whole thing about taking responsibility and informing at least two days beforehand since they weren’t able to cancel for me with the restaurant last minute. I didn’t say anything but that was really hurtful. As if I were choosing to be sick to inconvenience them??
This is a good question! Honestly I can’t even think of a time. Usually when someone says something insulting or hurtful, I just lose respect or consideration for them. After all, it says more about them than it does about me.
To add an example, I recently got told to “go back to my country you [lazy racial slurs]” by a MAGA loving shithead neighbor.
I was born here, and the old asshole who said it emigrated here less than a decade ago. It was a flabbergasting experience.
My manager introduced me at a company picnic to the guy who hired him years ago. We no longer worked in his org, but he was still someone who my boss admired. The guy had already had a few drinks and reached out to shake my hand. On my way to shake his, he happened to glance at my badge (I forgot I even still had it on) and noticed I’m a contractor.
“Oh, you’re a contractor?” As he immediately withdraws his hand. “Are you at least working to go full-time?”
He literally never shook my hand. It’s been over a year and I don’t think I’ll ever forget that. What a dick.
When I was told to get lost and go back to China because the pandemic reliefs were for the fellow countrymen.
Are you from China? Anyone who managed to escape that country should be praised, not told to go back.
Not China, but you know the rest… like that Laotian character from King of the Hills who gets asked “So you’re from China or Japan?” everytime.
