Either the family is terrible or you get insulted too easily
Learned this trick a while ago to tell the difference: don’t interrupt a person who you might think is being critical. just let them run on for a while and tap out for a bit.
If that other person comes off like they are harassing and verbally abusing when no one is being defensive to them it becomes pretty clear they are the toxic bully.
If they sound concerned and you not replying to it makes you look and sound dismissive, you’re the problem.
That said:
insulted too easily
Tends to be what an insecure toxic person says when people stop replying to their lashings.
My favourite is when toxic family members try to say they are doing it ‘out of care’
My favourite is: “And what are YOU waiting for?” (To get married). Mind your own business, relative i see once or twice a year.
There nothing wrong in telling people that you’re happy as you are and just talk about something else. Unless you’re not then you actually have something to talk about!
I don’t see the problem really or mayne I’m just naive?
From my experience, the problem isn’t the question itself but how and why it’s being asked. I’ve seen it used as a way of measuring one’s success because they believe everyone should want and have a family to be successful in life and if you don’t want or have that, you are treated differently and sometimes even as an outright failure to them.
I was 14 and the first time I talked with my uncle was him berating me over playing video games. That was also the last time I spoke to that fucker.
Yeah it’s also a way to filter all assholes out of your life when they hate on video games. The inability of ‘being able to play’ to just find joy in life is usually a red flag of a raging type A. Like every moment of your life isn’t just for production. We’re not bees.
You never had a kid that spent every free moment (and then some) on video games. Every moment of your life isn’t for garnering fake accomplishments in fake worlds, either. It’s a problem.
Have you ever considered that it may not be the games doing that, but it being a symptom, serving as a form of escapeism?
Ok so I don’t know you so I don’t know if you’re one of those who decides if someone is having fun AT ALL Even for half an hour it means they are wasting their life. Or if they have even something else they pay attention to outside of yourself you feel abandoned and get all all-or-nothing into micromanaging their life. I’ve known parents like this.
So Considering I was pretty clear in how I described the destructive behaviour of an (all or nothing) type A is unhealthy I’m not impressed with your judgment to intro your argument here. Not everything has to a slippery slope argument. It is a fallacy argument. Inability to have any joy is bad. So denying games is actually bad too. The OP posted how their discussion was denying ANY video games. That was the point. You skipped over that too just to make your point. That’s bad actor energy right there.
That’s it. I’m done repeating this to you or anyone who can’t stop and read something before megaphoning your poorly mismatched argument you want to have. Ya blocked so go tell it to the birds.
Wow. It feels like you’re talking directly to me about one of my family members. It’s clear that this kind of apathy towards video games isn’t uncommon
Oh yeah, You’d find these behaviours will be against almost anything that isn’t condincidered productive. They’ll insult a persons hobby just cuz it isn’t used to generate money. They don’t hold motivation by interest in any esteem. It’s like a symptom of a toxic work environment where every second has to be counted as how much money has been made or wasted. Then these people cannot turn off that part of their brain even when they’ve finished work and it creeps into every relationship they have.
Nope. Completely stopped talking to my extended familly. Just hang out with my inlaws (all great people) and my nuclear family. I don’t feel awful after every get-together now.
