It’s so weird how Lemmy feels like old reddit and that was when I was more active but as reddit grew I began to lurk more except in four different communities. It’s still hard to not lurk here. I frequently will type a comment or make a post and delete it, haha. Anybody else experiencing this?

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Yeah but you just gotta do it. Post that comment or post. We gotta build this community for us. I have a tendency to not be as social able on social media vs IRL. Mainly because I’ll second guess myself. But we gotta keep this place alive

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My lurking comes from mostly not being able to articulate exactly what I want to say sometimes. Like yeah, I know how this random thread makes me feel and I have an idea of what I want to say, but when I try to put it into actual, tangible words that make sense, I just end up sitting there for ten or fifteen minutes trying to word it out before I give up and move on lol. I’m trying to be better at it though, like force myself to post or comment something sometimes. Surely the more times I do, the better I’ll be at it right?? ¯\(ツ)

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Same here. Sometimes I want to be concise and end up with a whole paragraph trying to convey something.

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Exactly, I tend to find myself rambling when I don’t want to.

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I do the exact same thing, but it typically doesn’t stop me. Just makes me take half an hour and multiple edits on everything I’ve ever said. I’m well aware that I ramble. As long as paragraphs are separated, that’s what y’all are gonna get, voluntarily hanging out on a text-based forum. Very few people have whined, and if they want twitter-length messages, there are now several twitter-likes for them to join.

The real worst part is typing up a message to contradict or ask for clarification on something I don’t understand, and then in carefully typing it, I end up explaining it to myself and I no longer need to ask. Never mind, then.

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Ye

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I constantly do the ‘type it out and delete’ move, both on Reddit and slightly getting there here. I’m just an anxious sort who’s thinking ‘surely no one wants to read this’ ¯\(ツ)

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Or that they’ll vehemently reject what you say instead of helpfully explaining their perspective and why you might be wrong. That’s always fun.

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I’ll have a big thing typed out and then think about if anyone would care. Usually I didn’t think anyone would. So many discarded drafts.

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Yeah, I have significant lurker tendencies. It will take me a while to break out of the habit I think

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Yes keep deleting before I post. Happens quite a lot actually

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Yeah, exactl… <backspace><backspace><backspace> closes tab

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And on mobile, the bad gateway errors deleting what you jot down doesn’t help either lol

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