What do you think is best for a poor just coming out gay guy in his 30s trying to escape the things that come with street life. I am also more interested in older people than people my own age. Afaik there is no place for me.

I fully assume I’ll end up homeless but I have to leave.

I’m open to other areas too. Definitely away from north east/new England. Preferably away from East Coast… Preferably near the ocean or a good lake… I don’t want to be stuck in crime or around homophobes.

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Columbus is basically the only cool city in all of Ohio and Albuquerque is a dangerous shithole. Between these two, Columbus is the far better option.

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Have you lived in both?

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In a sense, yes. (Not OP)

I currently live in Santa Fe, and hear a lot about the crime in Santa Fe. I have friends who live there that corroborate crime statistics that say it’s mostly property crime. But I damn sure wouldn’t go around messing with people; violent crime is high, too.

I lived in Columbus Ohio for a few months once, finishing my last semester at OSU. Stay away from campus when there are football games. People are…lethargic or something…

But otherwise, I’d say Columbus is probably the better of the two. Crime didn’t seem to be as bad there as it is in Albuquerque.

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What’s your definition of “cool city?” I’m biased since I live there, but I’d say that Cleveland seems much cooler to me: ethnic neighborhoods/food, public transportation, lower CoL, vibrant queer communities, being on Lake Erie, and more.

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Columbus has Dirty Frank’s Hot Dog Palace which makes it a far superior choice.

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Columbus is a great little city in a not so great state. The local politics are quite progressive and the food and bar scene is quite nice. There was a decently sized queer community when I lived there a decade ago, and I’d expect it to continue to flourish as long as a major university is nearby.

Winters are cold. Summers are hot. The weather is what it is 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Sounds like where I live now but more open minded. I’m just hoping to at least find a better place than where I am. Even the winter in Columbus look to be half of what I’m used to… According the almanac or w/e they use.

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It really seems like you might have bigger issues than deciding between Albuquerque and Columbus. I can tell you about ABQ, but maybe you can give some more details about what’s pushing you to move, and why you’d look at those two cities in particular.

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They seemed cheap and open to LGBT.

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I’d feel like you could get better advice if you give more details, and maybe ask about LGBT friendly cities in some of the LGBT communities.

ABQ isn’t bad, but it’s not homeless friendly, and it gets cold in the winter. You could live outside of Albuquerque in the east mountains for relatively cheap but would need a vehicle to get into town.

But seriously, there’s more going on there that I think you might be able to use advice on.

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Los Angeles is great. Col is high, but wages are generally relatively high as well. Col in the high desert area is much lower.

If you can get a 15$/hr job (minimum wage in CA is 15) and rent a room somewhere nearby for 500 bucks, you can do pretty well for yourself if you budget your money.

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