This started a few days ago. I’ve been getting texts from friends with iPhones in the wrong order, and seemingly they are getting mine late. So I texted a friend whose grandmother was in the hospital yesterday, and her conversation with me looked like this. These texts from her arrived around a minute apart each. I think the intended order of them is fairly obvious. It’s worth noting that every time I send her a text, the read receipt line under the text shows a little clock for a few seconds or more, which I think means it hasn’t been recieved by her phone yet. Also worth noting that I had a conversation using the same stock messaging app with my mom yesterday who has an android and I don’t think we had any such issue, but that may have actually been RCS.
Anyway, here’s the example. It’s not the only example I’ve had with her or with another iPhone-using friend in the past couple days.
Me: Hey, how’s your day? Any updates about your grandma?
Her (a few hours later): I feel relieved
Me: does that mean you got good news?
Her: how was your day?
Her: yeah
Me: my day was good, (proceeds to describe what I did that day)
Her: my family feels relieved too
Me: what was the good news? Your grandma is okay?
Her: Hey $bionicjoey, I didn’t get much sleep last night but I just heard that the doctors say my grandma is out of danger.
Edit: I texted her last night saying something weird was going on after that exchange, and then this morning at about 7:30 AM I texted her saying “let me know as soon as you get this”. She just texted me at 2:30pm saying “I just am just now seeing your texts”
Same sitch, it happens off and on. I’m on Android, most of my extended family is on iPhone (except my brother). Our group texts are generally fine, but like 10% of the time these weird things happen where messages are out of order, or don’t go through at all.
I think as others have said it’s just SMS/MMS vs. iMessage, and until there’s any semblance of a unified protocol, this is what we have to deal with.
Mostly it’s just a nuisance, but missing picking someone up at the airport because of it one time was not a good thing.
I have the same problem sometimes talking to anyone in my family and we all use Android. It’s likely just the network itself having issues.
I scrolled back in our conversation and found at least one instance of a text that seemed to be replying to something I’d said weirdly earlier, and that was on Thursday of last week. So it’s probably been going on at least that long.
The world really needs to move away from SMSes…
This is almost certainly not the issue, but check and make sure the time/date is set automatically. I’ve seen the issue above before when someone’s phone is set manually and the 1 minute difference causes the texts to display weird.
Yeah no, I wouldn’t even know where to set the time on a smartphone. It’s definitely automatically synced from the internet (or mobile carrier, not actually sure where it gets its NTP from)
Edit: just found that setting, it was indeed already set to automatic. So that’s not the issue.
It could still be if your or their carrier/network time is wrong.
Also, I’m a little confused when you mentioned the little clock under the message. SMS doesn’t support read receipts. Some carriers support delivery receipts but these don’t work well across different message centres.
Yeah I think they are delivery receipts, not read receipts. That’s my mistake. Anyway I know after some time it changes from the little clock to an actual timestamp. In the past nearly instantly but lately it could be like a minute before it changes.
More info if helpful: I’m on a Fairphone 4, I’m in Canada, my carrier is Freedom Mobile, I’m on Android 13, I’m using the stock “Messages” app. I’ve had normal SMS conversations with both of the iPhone friends, so this is new.
