So ive put a lot of thot into this, and after going through what I did with my ex wife, I think it wouldn’t be a problem so long as
A. I know about it.
B. I get access to it and all paid content
C. No one else appears in it. This covers the whole “well that was an old video I uploaded” scenario too.
D. The relationship is otherwise secure.
E. But the real problem would be someone with an onlyfans wanting to date me.
I said, “indicative of”, not, “yea you’re insecure”. Amazing how you children cannot parse basic perception from accusation.
Right. Some people handle this well, others are not open to it. Willingness to adhere to monogamy is a thing that varies from person to person and must be discussed in any relationship. Ethical nonmonogamy is a thing, but it’s not for everyone, and it is a lot of communication and intimate work.
I mean, I wouldn’t want to deal with the mental gymnastics involved with my significant other getting down with other people
An open relationship isn’t that weird of a concept to some. It’s about how much others mean to you, not how much of them you posess. People in these comments are fucking pathetic for not understanding this basic fact of healthy relationships: You do not own anyone else. To any degree. Period.
I think they were reacting to the “no one can appear even if it was an old video before we met” part.
Yes, but the vast majority of us do have some insecurities and you can at least be honest with yourself and your partner about them.
Ha, C&E are actually relationship needs of mine, friend.
In fact, I think the others are more indicative of my insecurities, but hey, I’m not anxious-avoidant so I don’t know for sure.
If you’re dealing with the boundaries healthily, then it’s not so much an insecurity and more of a limitation. If others are aware and OK with it, I’d call that healthily dealt with. Whether or not the limitation is a problem is merely a matter of preference, and luckily it sounds like yours line up.
I love how everyone assumes “indicative of” is a direct accusation… As if false red flags based on perception do not exist. People are so small minded.
Im someone for whom C is a necessity like the person you’re responding too and I think you’re 100% right.
It may not be a nessesarily pathological insecurity, but it absolutely is an insecurity.
If I felt more secure I’d probably be able to deal with it. I don’t think that means im a necessarily insecure person, or am someone for whom insecurity is a clinical problem, but at least comparatively that makes it an insecurity.
You can get depressed and not have depression, you can get insecure and not be an insecure person, heck you can even maintain a healthy amount of anxiety. These are essentially just human traits and there’s no shame in admitting that I have a trait that’s at least a little rooted in insecurity so long as it doesn’t negatively impact my life.
It’s fine to not want to date someone with an onlyfans, but I feel like the guys who go out of their way to say it usually have other red flags about
Basically men who: —
Could never get a woman that hot
Get jealous easily
Don’t like women having agency over their sexuality
Don’t like women having agency over themselves full stop
I just ask that people realize what I realize, which is it’s an issue with ME that I’m not secure enough to be with a person who I can see having sex with someone else. I cannot control my feelings but I am responsible for them, or at the very least, other people are not responsible for them(at least in this example anyway it’s not as if the of model was having sex with other people AT me.)
Yes. Girl does not have to be a superstart to send pics on OnlyFans and similar. Fetishes exists, she can show feet and have ugly face.
Patch notes: clause unnecessary. Refactored to cover the general case.
I’ve dated a couple hot chicks back before OF and cam sites were mainstream, and honestly it’s tedious if you aren’t equally attractive. I wouldn’t have dated them if I wasn’t confident in the relationship but it’s still tedious when dudes will walk right up to yall and hit on her in front of her when you’re obviously together.
It’s probably not something that’d be a problem now that I’m in my 30s, but I wouldn’t know cause I don’t get dates these days anyway 😂
always the “no revenues guys” who drop the first line