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Being “vetted” by them…

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For real this seems like a major red flag.

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Maybe you don’t like the wording, but everyone does this. Unless you know if someone will be a close friend the moment you lay eyes on them, or are friends with literally everyone you’ve spent time with.

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Yes everyone does it naturally and mostly subconsciously over time as they get to know people. You’ve got to be a real psycho to be running through a checklist you’ve crowd sourced online. Wtf is this thread. Ugh reddit refugees lmao.

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I personally doubt OP is going to actually use the answers like that.

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Then it’s unconscious. Hopefully the criteria are ones you’d agree with if they were conscious.

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Listens to pop music

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Yeah, you gotta be more than a single thread carpet.

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Almost forgot this place is filled with redditors

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Same for any pop media. Some is fine, but if they think every current trending show or movies is “the best” than I know they don’t have a system of standard.

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How they treat people who disagree with them politically. If they immediately hate/cut off people for political disagreements, we’re not going to be friends any deeper than surface level.

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Depends on the disagreement… if the topic under discussion is as inflammatory as abortion or trans rights, I’m sure you can understand why some folks can’t agree to disagree.

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Not agreeing to disagree isn’t the same as cutting someone off from your life, even for those issues. There are multiple issues within those issues that are extreme. For example, I’m pro-choice, but the cutoff for me is probably around the 24 week mark. Pushing for more than that, to me, is extreme, unless we’re talking outlier situations, which would go on a case-by-case basis.

Based on that, many people who are extreme in their belief would certainly cut me out of their life for not supporting late-term abortion.

This all-or-nothing approach is just irrational. It’s not a good match friendship-wise.

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What if they hate/cut off fascists though?

I know a lot of people who are close friends with BJP fans and I always thought that was fucking weird

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It depends on who you view as facist. If you think anyone conservative is facist, we’re not going to be close friends. I’m not a conservative, but I am rational, so I understand the idea that all conservatives are facist is an extreme view, and actually a pretty facist way of thinking in itself.

I’m not sure who BJP is, do you mean Jordan Peterson (JBP, I think are his initials)? If so, we don’t agree on what a facist is, and yeah, if you’re someone who views people through such an extreme lense, we’re just not a good friend match.

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What if they call anyone who disagrees with their ideology a fascist? Then they’re just a bully.

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  • Serious belief in pseudosciences
  • Conspiracy theorist
  • Right-wing ideology
  • Sex prude
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Do people really do that? I just kind of meet people and whatever happens happens.

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Right?

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