It hasn’t. It was dead for many years, and i am finally not single without changing anything

Online trash never helped me

I think having accounts I don’t use is better than having nothing.

I date a lot. A lot of social media addicted women find it offputting and suspicous. The ones that don’t think it’s healthy and positive.

Lot of these guys saying it doesn’t matter cause they’re married. My ex of 10 years cheated so no social media means I have nothing except my daughter and work friends.
I agree social media background checks are creepy so let that filter run. Focused on my kid so if that isn’t good enough, it will be for someone eventually maybe.
Also only 32. There’s always 2 sides of the story but every person that’s left my life hurt me before doing it so trust issues abound means no real friends as an introvert anymore.

Introverted late GenX/early millennial cis het male here. I didn’t date much, but I had a pretty evenly mixed and diverse friend group. It helps the most that I moved from a small town to a major metropolitan area, which greatly expanded my friend group. I met one girlfriend when she was visiting her cousin and we hit it off. I met my wife at a friend’s wedding, but we didn’t start dating until two years later.

My advice to younger ones looking for love is this: widen out your friend group. Diversify in age, gender, race, and culture of origin. Not to find romantic partners in those areas, but to widen your in-person social network. I learned so much about my own romantic needs through my friendships with others. I got called out on creepy behavior by friends that were girls, I got kind advice on grooming by older guy friends. I adjusted my behaviors through simple association. None of that would have happened if I had stayed in my comfort zone (playing Xbox with my fellow nerds). And as I met friends of friends, I sometimes clicked with one on a romantic level. Not many, and definitely not all, and sometimes I was rejected, but that’s life, right?

Today I’ve been married for over a decade. Some of the friendships I made have lasted, some have not. That didn’t make them less valuable. I acknowledge that I’m coming from a different era. The way I made friends may not work today. At the time it was organic. I recognized my own nature to withdraw from people, and actively worked against it. If an invitation came, I accepted. I don’t know if invitations would come today in person, but if you have some friends that are social media savvy that could be your in