we’re so back (but i will be making a separate post for my circumstances)
I won a bid on a house, finally WON a bid, and signed the paperwork and house went into pending.
But then because the seller realtor made a “mistake” and they managed to get another bid before we could get attorney approval letters filled out. So suddenly another offer came through and the seller realtor had a responsibility “in the interest of fairness” to present this offer even though contracts were already signed. In the interest of fairness they gave us the opportunity to outbid this offer, but of course they wouldnt tell us what that offer was to get an opportunity to potentially match it or just give up.
And in 3 fun days I got the ups and downs of anticipation of getting an answer, the emotional high of finally winning a bid and getting a house, the hype from planning inspection dates and imaging where I can go from house and how I can make it my own, the excitement and joy in telling the people, then the dread of not knowing if I’ll be able to keep the house, and finally the anger and sadness from having this fucking shark take my house away right out of my hands.
I’m staying positive I know we’ll find something, but this market is killing me.
even though contracts were already signed
I don’t know what jurisdiction you’re in, and even though I’m a lawyer, I’m not your lawyer, and this isn’t legal advice, and I have never seen your contract,
buuut…
I would get some legal advice from a real estate or professional negligence lawyer in your jurisdiction if I were you. That situation has the stink of contract breach / negligent realtor all over it.
Technically we still have a few days signing to get the attorney approval or rejection letter sent out. All theyre doing is having their attorney issue the rejection letter. So there really isnt much we can do on our end.
We could try and force them to honor to contract or at least get some compensation for the shady dealings, but it wouldnt be worth the cost or energy, especially when it’s unlikely to yield any fruit.
All I can do is hope karma gets them, and that the same kind of shady buyer that does stuff like this is going to be a predator when it comes to negotiating after inspection is done. “based on insert typical stuff I think Im going to have to drop my offer to 10k under asking price”.
I will keep an eye on this deal to see how things roll, and I will try to resist the urge to egg the house on the regular.
House buying is the absolute worst. I hate it so much…
You have to decide so much, on so little information and time. Hell you can spend longer researching a cheap kitchen appliance than a house.
Even when it’s all sorted it’s not really… not until you finally have the keys.
The only way I could be stay sane was shifting my way of thinking… eventually you will find your home and before long you’ll be making memories in it and will absolutely love your house. Every house you missed on was really a good thing in the end as it will lead you to that one house, your proper home.
Pretty awful. Work sucks and I had to put my cat down on Friday. She was my best friend. I was okay over the weekend but I am increasingly lonely and heartachey.
Ready to jump off of a fucking cliff.
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Last week, Roommate loses extraordinary amount of money to a scammer. We ended up behind on rent and were served an eviction notice. Dealing with a rent bank now.
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Last week is also my 31st birthday and I end up having a gout flare up. Because you know. That’s fun. I usually have to walk with a cane because of a worthless knee but now I get to add a worthless foot on the other leg so yay.
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Couldn’t afford food or medication or really anything. Not as much of a problem at the moment but the stress still exists and having to plan for next month when the same situation is likely going to happen.
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This morning I got off the toilet and put pressure on the wrong part of my foot. Instant agony and I shift balance to the other foot but it’s not in a position to support my weight. Grab for something to steady myself and all I grab is the toilet seat which gets part of it ripped off of the toilet. So now I have to buy a fucking toilet seat as well. I am hobbling right now. It takes me 30 seconds to move to the bathroom which is next door to my bedroom. Normally that’s like… 3 seconds. So god knows when i’ll be able to go out and get a toilet seat. So that’s gonna end up with me positioned weirdly for the next week until this dies down.
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New chest pain that is not fun and god knows what the fuck is happening there but I can’t see a doctor about it anytime soon. It’s not 911 level of emergency. It’s more of a nagging thing that comes and goes and feels muscular but still.
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What is scary is heart has been doing a thing. Beating it’s own samba every now and again.
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I wrote myself into a corner with my DnD campaign and now I don’t know what the fuck to do. We have a session tonight which will be finishing up a oneshot from before but still. I don’t know what i’m gonna do and I can’t think straight.
Please someone put me out of my misery.
If this keeps up you’ll be in a mind controlled wheelchair, communicating via a series of beeps.
Seriously though, I hope your situation improves.
I’ve heard that consuming citrus (ideally lime-aide because it’s more acidic) can help dissolve the crystals that causes gout to be so painful.
I hope that helps, friend.
Unfortunately I cannot afford it or leave the house to even buy it in the first place. Walking is essentially out. It feels like my foot is going to pop it’s so swollen.
I’m not sure what to say. This is what Dr. GPT says:
"If you don’t have access to a doctor due to financial constraints, there are still some steps you can take to manage gout:
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Dietary Changes: Modify your diet to include foods that are low in purines, as high purine intake can contribute to gout. Avoid or limit organ meats, shellfish, and alcohol. Consume plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins.
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Hydration: Staying hydrated helps to flush out excess uric acid from your body. Drink plenty of water throughout the day.
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Weight Management: Maintaining a healthy weight can reduce the risk of gout flare-ups. Losing weight if you’re overweight can help manage gout symptoms.
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Home Remedies: Some natural remedies like cherry juice, ginger, and turmeric have been suggested to have anti-inflammatory properties that might offer relief. However, their effectiveness varies among individuals.
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Over-the-Counter Medications: Non-prescription pain relievers like ibuprofen or naproxen may help alleviate pain and inflammation. Always follow the recommended dosages and consult the package instructions.
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Lifestyle Changes: Avoid alcohol and limit consumption of sugary beverages, as they can exacerbate gout symptoms.
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Rest and Elevation: Resting the affected joint and elevating it can help reduce pain and swelling during a gout flare-up.
Remember, while these steps might provide some relief, they are not a substitute for professional medical advice. If your symptoms worsen or become unbearable, it’s important to find a way to consult a healthcare professional, even if it means seeking out free or low-cost clinics, community health centers, or government health services in your area."
Maybe there are some low cost clinics in town.
Very weird. I keep doing things and not being quite sure who’s doing them. Having trouble not feeling super alone and isolated but also having trouble feeling like I’m me so it’s kinda better in a weird way? Very strange. … Kinda just wanted to tell somecritter about that, I guess 🤷♀
I hope it’s okay if I pretend to bee a beehawer for a sec <.< I figure I kinda am in spirit, so maybe it’s okay? Though lately Idunno if I’m me so who knows. wobbles awkwardly
Thank you for sharing. I don’t have any special pearls of wisdom, except to say that I see you, you are not alone.
If you ever need someone to talk to, I am here. I’m sure the same is true for many folks on this big, federated universe.
And if you don’t have someone to talk to in your world offline, there are plenty of resources for folks who would be happy to listen if you care to share more.
Hang in there!
Haven’t posted on Lemmy before. Excited to be in a small queer community. This week: made some fun art with my partner, organized back if house at a nonprofit, had great coffee, and enjoyed nature
