Anybody saying the anythings are the best time of your life is a fucking liar. You won’t know what was the best time of your life until it’s over.
Signed, Somebody who hated her entire goddamned childhood/adolescence/20s
It’s going even more downhill from there, believe you me. Enjoy your shitty food, video games and young loneliness. It’ll only develop into old person eats shitty food and regrets it instantly, plays video games that are no longer interesting to you and old person loneliness. Ask me how I know…
That’s the worst part of being 30+ for me. Not enjoying anything anymore. Being able to afford a 4090, but video games just aren’t fun anymore like they used to be. And the few high school friends I had all disappeared and moved on with their lives before I even reached 25. So now the only form of enjoyment I get comes from my car. If I didn’t have something that was fun to drive, I’d have nothing.
At first I thought it was just depression. But I went to several psychologists; tried various anti-depresssnts and mood stabilizers but none of them do anything for me. So I don’t think I have depression. The body simply does not want to enjoy anything anymore once you get older. Sucks, man.
I’m almost 30 and I stopped enjoying video games long ago… probably late teens into early twenties. It kin dof stinks because it’s a great solo activity, get I just can’t get into it. People say I should find a hobby, but everything just feels like “work” to me. When I get home at the end of the day, I only have the motivation and mental capacity to veg out on the couch or online. Mine isn’t depression either. It’s just like I don’t have the mental capacity to do stuff like that for whatever reason. I actually enjoy watching people play video games, just not playing them myself.
But I went to several psychologists; tried various anti-depresssnts and mood stabilizers but none of them do anything for me.
Just want to point out that the efficacy of treatments isn’t an indication of whether you actually have depression or not. Took me many years to find a working combination of meds and therapy, and it’s still a struggle.
You mention your friends moving away, this could be loneliness/isolation. Made me think of this article: Why Americans Suddenly Stopped Hanging Out
If I were to play “internet therapist” here (which is totally always a great idea) I would suggest to try spontaneity. Shake things up, go outside your not-so-comfort-zone, because it sounds to me like what you’ve been doing isn’t working. And logic dictates the only way to find something that does work is by trying something different.
Your 30’s are better anyway.
I agree. I finally have the money to do the things I wish I could have done in my 20s. The problem now is that my body isn’t quite what it used to be.
I’m in my 40s and incredibly comfortable, money isn’t an issue at all. Bit numb to life, though but I was living out of my car in my 20s.
That rings really true. I’ve got a few more health issues, but nothing terrible. My material and financial situation is so much better than in my 20s. But still, I’m just a bit numb about enjoying things and kinda nostalgic for when I felt more. And I miss all of the easy friendships from my college and post college years.
50’s have been fantastic so far. The 40’s numbness gave way to less fucks given somewhere along the way.
Looks pretty fucking great to me honestly. Hanging out at home. Got some snacks, a good game. A comfy couch. A little drink.
I know you might need to hear this. The things you’re doing right now, they aren’t a mistake. There is no answer, no perfect life to live. You’re doing okay. Your life will always be a work in progress. Please don’t feel like your life needs to become something to be worthy of respect. Think back to a time in your life that you regret wasting time. Was the past you content in that moment? Then why regret it?
To everyone who sat on the couch too long. Who stayed in that broken relationship. Who dropped out of school. Who betrayed someone close to them. Or who missed an opportunity. Or who made a minor social error. Forgive yourself for those things. For everything. That thing you’re holding on to. Forgive yourself for that too.
I want you to know that the world is a better place with you in it. You don’t need to be important in your world. Just to yourself.
