I just feel like I’m intruding on a private moment and just sit there tense and embarrassed until it’s over. Trying not to listen to the schlorp schlorp noises.
But it’s such a common trope, I so assume I’m in some weird minority.
Does anyone find it enjoyable to watch? If so, why and how?
I haaaate this shit, and have since I was a kid. I actually recently had a discussion with my gf (both of us in our 30s) along these lines, though I more specifically asked her if she could think of a scene in any media in which the story just absolutely could not move forward without one of those stupid, bawdy, explicit sex scenes, and neither of us could think of one.
I just don’t see how actually showing me a character’s genitals serves any more of a purpose than perhaps tastefully implying (through cutaways, for example) that the characters are having sex other than pure titillation… And there is clearly a vast sea of content designed specifically for that, so I don’t really care for media that goes out of its way to be graphic if that isn’t its express purpose.
Additionally, to be perfectly honest, I don’t really know how anyone can view a lot of these sex scenes in a positive light post-#metoo movement either. Maybe I’m just an idiot or a prude or something, but I have a lot of difficulty believing that every single nude/sex scene that’s come out of Hollywood has been completely free of some variety of impropriety or, at the very least, coercion. And that by itself is enough to strip away whatever merit you might argue the scene could have.
Savage Grace used its sex scene’s extremely well. A lot like the other reply about Shortbus, the sexuality is at the front and center of the film’s plot. PS: there should be a bit of a trigger warning as there’s a strong element of parental sexual abuse and this movie gets fucked up
So I’m alone in liking kissing scenes? I also like sex scenes and gratuitous violence.
Trying not to listen to the schlorp schlorp noises.
Dude, you’re killing me. Best description of kissing noises ever!
I consider them part of normal human behavior and therefore natural in movies. If anything I might think more intimacy should be portrayed on screen. But this question and many of the replies let me see that I am not necessarily typical in my view that sex, love, and kissing are no big deal in media.
Going to the bathroom and sleeping are also normal human behavior, but I’m still not gonna watch a show or movie that shows someone spending 10 minutes on the toilet. Not because I think its gross , but just boring imo. But given I consider myself aroace-spec, I don’t expect my experience to necessarily be representative. And I think those things should be considered more normal in every-day life, rather than something that needs to be hidden, so normalizing it in media is probably a step forward.
Since you mentioned “boring” — Probably the most out of step thing about me is that I think boredom is healthy. I think constantly stimulating stories (and consumption habits, relationships, news…) are interfering with the hard, slow work of sustainable existence. (I just realized I’m almost quoting Dr. Wong! Sorry lol)
I crave entertainment and distraction. And I admit my huge flaw of falling into a lecturing tone. Sigh. I don’t mean it. I only want to control me. It’s just that for most of my life I’ve been pretty unhappy and dysfunctional & I see links between my past state and a desire for escape and constant entertainment. Is this still about kissing in movies? Maybe. We are just sharing opinions on the internet. Getting feelings out is good.
Gonna go watch Andy Warhol’s “Sleep” now…
