What are some of the non-sexual pleasures men enjoy? For example, I like saunas and soaking baths with salts and scented candles.

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That feeling between when you decide to lay down for a nap and actually falling asleep. When there’s nothing on your mind, and you get your blankets just right, It’s like coziness cranked to 11. One of my favorite sensations.

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I love that too, especially the part when you have nothing at the back of your head bothering you. It’s been quite some time since I have that feeling. Unfortunately, in my chaotic world, there is always something going on in my head.

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I hope you’re able to experience that feeling again soon, OP. :)

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This is actually something of a weakness of mine. I can do that so easily that sometimes I just take a nap, despite all the pressures I’m under.

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Fuck, for sensual, a long and hot shower is sovereign. Just kick back and enjoy the muscles unkinking (shower chairs ftw?)

Climbing into fresh sheets after said shower.

A hot cup of beverage on a rainy day, looking out over the back yard.

Cuddling with our hen. No, that’s not a typo. She’s not as cuddly as she used to be, but every now and then, she’ll nestle into my beard and trill while she gets her neck petted. Pure, simple joy right there. When she was smaller, it was every night. Now, it’s maybe once a month.

Finding a new band/performer that resonates with me on an emotional level.

Used to take joy in baking, but that’s kinda fallen off what with arthritis interfering more, but every now and then, I can pop some NSAIDs and knead a dough, or make something sweet that fills the house with that smell.

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Bath. You need to take a long hot soak in a bath.

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That are dang nice. Have trouble getting out, but they’re bomb

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Why get out. Prunes are, after all, our natural state.

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I like fixing/making stuff. Can be very rewarding and relaxing.

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What type of stuff do you make?

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Currently a timer based light switch for my mother, turning on/off the actual lights (so not just some lamps you plug in). Interface is a website, so easy to use for her. This will help her feel safer regarding burglars, since she can make the lights turn on and off seemingly randomly when she is gone. And not just any light but the actual lights of those rooms.

The pile of thingd I have to repair is far larger. But that is mostly too complicated to explain what I actually do to fix the stuff. But generally speaking replacing the actual chips in electronics that failed, instead of replacing everything.

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For home automation needs, Home Assistant may be of interest to you.

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Sounds interesting and helpful

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Becoming obsessed with a project. Every once in awhile I’ll just get consumed with some kind of constructive/creative-ish project and it’s just such a nice feeling to have “a purpose”. Like, everything else in life sucks, but I’m working on something that feels important in the moment.

Taking a really nice shit is also pretty cool too.

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Alone time to work on said project without distraction is my S-tier pleasure, lol. I sometimes wonder if god is real and I’m just living in purgatory because everyone around me has some magic barometer to know when I’m trying to focus on something.

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Hugs

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Hugs and cuddles for me.

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Whenever I come home my dog jumps up on my shoulders and just hangs there as if to give me a hug and it’s the best thing ever.

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