Dating/romantic relationships. I usually manage to uncover multiple deal breakers on the first date, and I’m pretty sure that’s more of a “me” problem, than a problem with the type of people I date.
Out of curiosity, what are some examples of what you would consider to be dealbreakers?
Oh man, I’ve really slowed down my dating, so it’s hard to remember many of them. I know some of these are actually reasonable, but others are just me looking for faults/expecting perfection:
- Is a night owl
- Works in a field that requires odd hours
- Isn’t 100% against having kids (most recent one said they didn’t mind either way, which makes me worried they’ll eventually realize they want kids)
- Has children, even if they’re already adults
- Laughs weird
- Previously married (most recent one lost their previous partner to cancer a few years ago)
- Not regularly physically active
- Has dietary restrictions/allergies
- Doesn’t drink alcohol ever
- Obvious political differences
- Doesn’t like cats and/or my cats are scared of them
- Has a dog, especially if it’s small and/or if they take it everywhere
- Has “weird” pets, like snakes or spiders
- Has a messy home
- Still lives with their parents
Thanks for the candid answer. I understand the urge to nitpick. Although, for the life of me I can’t understand how having a dog could be a negative. I feel like at worst that would just be a neutral? I’m guessing you’re not a dog person?
Doesn’t drink alcohol ever
Wow, call me triggered here XD I’m interested what your reasoning here is.
In the short term maybe, but there’s definitely some areas where things become more affordable when you have two incomes contributing. Housing is a big one, and apparently also taxes.
Recent article about that: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/24055481/single-benefits-married-couple-taxes-money
Just find an enterprising other individual and create a business plan to get married on paper.
You might want two main bedrooms in a house. So a little remodeling cost. But then you can resell later as a mother-in-law room.
Public restroom usability. I find myself noticing placement of hand drier/paper towel dispenser in relation to the sinks and making judgements about that. Plus I cannot stand the automatic water and soap dispensers that work about ⅔ of the time. Finally, sink faucets designed so that I basically have to have my hands right under them so that I’m splashing so much water on the counter rather than in the sink. So many poor design choices in public restrooms.
The one that really drives me nuts is when the faucet is too short/too far back meaning that your knuckles are constantly hitting the rear edge of the sink in order to get your palms under the stream. This is especially annoying when it’s in an otherwise large sink!
That drives me up the wall. Last summer, I went on a vacation to a rental home that had this issue. After a couple of days of rubbing my hands on the back of the sink just to get them wet, I went to the store and bought a cheap funnel. I used my Swiss Army knife to cut off the base of the funnel, and I shoved it onto the sink. Problem solved!
If the water pressure was higher (or if the aerator was less restricted) it probably wouldn’t have been an issue, given the angle of the faucet. It’s still ridiculous that shit like this happens.
Privacy.
I know I can’t completely stop any large corporations from collecting or using data about me, but I pursue a stubborn, swiss-cheese/defense-in-depth strategy to reduce the data anyone has on me to a minimum.
This means I have a dumb t.v., don’t pay for streaming services, don’t like or subscribe to things, have a non-standard encrypted email, have a non-standard phone, computer, browser, don’t use AI powered suggestions if at all possible, and on and on.
It means a lot of minor inconveniences, basically.
EDIT: I just realized this probably counts as tech. Oh well.
User Interface.
Two examples:
• Simple vs. Easy: Taking away all the buttons and menus makes the software (look) simpler, but having those where I can get to them and use them is easier. Easier still: keyboard shortcuts for everything! Not as simple, but way easier.
• Save, Save As, and Undo: Save needs to go away. It’s unnatural. You don’t save in the real world. Any change just stays. If you want it different, you undo the change. Undo needs to be near infinite. Save As can stick around since sometimes you want to branch your progress.
Save is also going away for most thinks, so I think you’re actually a little ahead of our time with that.
I would rather lose than bring an unpainted/unfinished miniature to a tabletop game. On rare occasions if somebody is showing me a game and I have to borrow their models (for example a Battletech game last year) I will use them, but none of my own models are played unless varnished.
I don’t hold others to that standard, though I do appreciate seeing it.
You could try, “My 10 year old niece painted this for me and wanted me to use it tonight.”
It’s less about quality (I am not the best painter) and more about not bringing obviously unfinished pieces. “Greytide” is a phrase in Warhammer communities to describe unpainted grey plastic armies. Similar are armies just primed one color. Often with pieces not all assembled. It’s less fun both anesthetically and because it makes it more difficult to figure out which miniature is which.
For me, only using my finished miniatures prevents me from sliding into greytide.
Ah. Ok.
Maybe buy a set of painted ones?
I’m not trying to give you a hard time or change your mind or criticize. Just a random guy on the internet blabbing away.
