A lot of us experience dysphoria about a lot of things. Personally, one of my biggest points of dysphoria is my facial/body hair and masculine sounding voice.
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-Olivia (oNevia)
I just wish I wasn’t so afraid of being clocked in public. Absolutely kills me to go outside in boymode, but my fear of judgement/violence is even greater. Doesn’t help that I’m living in a red state
Live in a red state as well and it really sucks! I’ve found that more androgenous clothing is a little more forgiving for my anxiety than full on femme clothing like dresses or skirts. Then I’ll put on a nice necklace to femme it up just a tad more and I feel pretty cute but not too clockable.
Sure I still get some funny looks but my anxiety about the situation is a lot better. Do you think something like that might help?
What kind of androgenous clothing? I go out with painted nails and stuff. I’m not as scared of being read as queer as I am trans. It’s getting more difficult as my boobs become more prominent since unfortunately my face is very masc coded. I mostly just wear super baggy clothes when I go out currently. It feels amazing when I get to go to private, safe places and can wear fits that aren’t trying to hide my gender identity like fitted tanks/tops. Sadly that happens far too infrequently.
I’m trying to plan on getting to a blue state, but it’s difficult to find a job out of state in tech as a trans woman all while timing it so I don’t have to break my lease
I went for clothing that was a bit more unisex in nature and then having some “accessories” to femme things up (or masc things up if I’m having a rough self conscious day)
So examples would be experimenting with different colors on you. So before my egg cracked, I just wore grey, black and navy blue. Very drab and unapologetic.
Now I wear all sorts of colorful pieces. Pink, purple, maroon, whatever looks good for my skin tone.
Also, you can femme up most outfits with a nice cardigan and if you’re feeling extra cute, a nice necklace or bracelet. Still femme but a little less “noticable” If anything, I’m probably clocked as gay or queer but not specifically trans yet.
Now, once my boobs grow in that’ll be a different story but it’s a good transitionary approach to wardrobe.
