Been high nonstop for years. I realize it’s bad for my health. But at least being high feels good.
My future is on a planet becoming increasingly unhabitable, under a government becoming increasingly fascist, doing nothing but working and still not being able to afford rent or food, never traveling, never making real friends much less finding a life partner, water quickly becoming a luxury, and with zero chance of ever retiring.
So why even bother?
Think globally, act locally
As said by Paulie Shore in his environmental documentary Biodome.
If everyone did that we’d be fine as a species, but not enough do. Don’t get so stressed out about the stuff we can’t change to not help change stuff you can.
Our brains don’t care about the scale, it’ll help if you do something no matter how small.
And that gives you the mental bandwidth to care about big shit again.
You have to moderate how many fucks you give or you’ll run out.
If I may, let me rephrase what givesomefucks said:
Do not focus on the “ bigger picture”; it’s not something that can be easily fixed by you. Instead, focus on smaller things within your bubble of life; e.g., been putting off the laundry? Go do it real quick. All of it: wash, dry, fold, and put away. Been meaning to clean your bathroom for a while? Do it. Wash the counters and the mirror; wipe the toilet down (even the back of the base).
If it helps, make a laundry list of things you need to get done or want to do (they don’t all have to be chores). This will help get them out of your head and organized in a way that you can tackle each b item easier. And while you don’t want to pressure yourself to get them all done “right now”, give yourself reasonable deadlines to help hold yourself accountable.
The idea is to build up these little wins; they feel good when they’re complete, and also enrich your life in some way at the same time. It will also help build up your confidence, as you’ll run out of simple stuff and start focusing on slightly more complex things.
This is the best advice I’ve adopted recently for exactly the same perception. Focus on your life, maybe do your best to have a positive impact on the things that worry you. Decrease your engagement with the news cycle - know what’s going on, but only as much as you can handle without it affecting your mental health.
Learn to trust that things will be ok, even if you’re not entirely convinced they will. It may not solve the problems, but your sanity matters too
Have you considered that you might be self medicating depression rather than getting high?
Maybe a professional could help more than anyone on lemmy?
I agree with everything you said, except the “rather than” sentiment. It sounds a lot like the “stimulants don’t make people with ADHD high, it just makes them normal” folklore - this is not how anything works, though: people with ADHD can get high on stimulants just fine. Perhaps “getting high to cope” would be closer, but op basically said this in the post.
That’s fair. I didn’t mean to imply anything about the drug use.
The way OP views the world reminds me of how I see things when I am experiencing certain depression symptoms. I tend to filter my view of the world so that only the negative things are true, and it makes it harder to do anything positive in my life.
When my symptoms let up, either through treatment or sometimes on their own, I can still see the negatives but they’re there with a lot of positives, too.
If OP does have depression, it’s possible that treating it in a more effective way would be the answer to their question.
Get active politically. Even if (especially if) we are all just doomed, we can at least “comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable”. For me it meant joining up with a group of people doing mutual aid distributing meals and camping supplies to our houseless neighbors.
I know where you’re coming from, but that’s not strictly true. Historically in the US (at least) a lot of radical political leaders have been assassinated, that is true. A movement needs leadership, but it also needs a lot more people doing the real work. Try to shift your focus to things less grand in scale.
For me, it’s just math. The odds of things getting better if I try may be low, but the odds if I don’t are even lower. I’ll take the higher odds every time.
For you, have you considered spite? Live the best life you can to prove wrong everyone who tried to stop you, and do as much good in the world as you can so those trying to do evil have to try just that little bit harder. It only takes one good hit to ruin a superior opponent’s perfect game, and you can only get that hit if you keep playing.
Climate change wouldn’t be as bad as it is today if we didn’t fix the ozone layer destruction trend.
A lot of the failing democracies around the world wouldn’t be failing as badly if people who drank bleach and licked measles sores because Facebook said it would make them immortal actually died from the consequences instead of surviving to go on and share the posts again.
Sometimes making things better actually does make them worse.
Saving the deer from the wolf can have catastrophic effects.
It should have been addressed and will still be around for decades despite healing, and it is a poster case for “see silly humans, you can mend your ways.”
But there is also a cooling effect to a giant hole opposite to the effect of CO2 and improving the ozone may have slightly worsened the speed of warming as a result.
You could have been alive during the actual ice age. Or a hundred years ago when fascism was literally worse. Or an indentured slave to the British empire having your kids eaten by cannibals because you didn’t make your rubber picking quota. Or in about 80% of the world today that has things worse.
The glass can be half full or half empty.
If you live your life focused on what you don’t have, it devalues the things you do have. If you look at your life as one of abundance (and compared to 99.9% of human lives in all of history, it very much is), you’ll have a life filled with value.
One of the few proven techniques to improve happiness is to end each day writing down three things you are grateful for that day.
All that said, yeah of course everyone is fucked and there’s high odds things will only get worse from here.
Which means today is one of the best days of the rest of your life. 🎉🪩🕺
Enjoy it while it lasts?
Or an indentured slave to the British empire having your kids eaten by cannibals because you didn’t make your rubber picking quota.
WTF are you referring to here? I mean I’m guessing that you’re referring to a historical event, rather than making shit up?
Technically Belgian and not British though.
