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Honestly wish I could do that. I’ve gotten so used to masking my inability to do small talk that I basically just say yes to everything. It’s super annoying and something I want to work on, but I dont really know how.

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Its incorrect wording but i shorthanded it to ‘embrace the sociopathy’. Very nice little koan to drop on the programmed reaction i’ve had to natural ASD reactions

‘You can’t do that it’s sociopathic!’ No ma it’s ASD and i’m tired of pretending i’m not to save your face.

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Since the acronym for sociopath is ASPD, I will often respond with something like “nuh uh, mine has one less letter”. Pretty niche, but when someone gets it, so good.

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ASPD

that’s just a portal gun

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most of the people claiming it’s sociopathic tend to be pretty controlling in my experience, which is ironic

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I’m the opposite i can do small talk ( and even be charming while doing it) but, i just can’t STAND it and don’t know how to get out of it either so i’ve just taken to greyrocking whenever it comes up. For the record i don’t have asd ( some people said they had it in this section) just static encephalopathy ( brain damage) and am actually quite smart just I’ve got a lot special niche interests ( sci fi, fantasy and Gorillaz to name a few) and if i don’t know you ( aka you aren’t interested in these things and / or like small talk) then I don’t want to talk to you but, if you don’t do small talk and/ or are interested in something I’m interested in GREAT! IF YOU WANT TO TALK I’M DOWN FOR IT!

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I’ve always wanted to get into the Gorillaz, but never found any of their music that I like, do you have a recommendation?

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I say Demon Dayz or The Now Now.

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Seems Germany would be heaven to this userbase.

Pose a question, expect a no-nonsense, factual answer. Don’t be offended but appreciate the candor and brevity. Get back to being productive so you can leave for a timely Feierabend like everyone else.

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To be fair, this would probably still be considered very unusual in Germany. You’re not obligated to do a while song and dance, but uf you do this I would assume it’s a very deadpan joke.

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I was watching a YouTube video for Americans on what not to do when visiting Germany. I was thinking that I would love to live in Germany throughout the video for the reasons you stated.

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“Halo, Servus!” -Feli

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American here and I am in constant jealousy of Germany.

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have you seen america? most of the world is at least somewhat better

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Nope, you are right

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I don’t know German so I am going to assume that a Feierabend is going on a bender with Guy Fieri

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I think it’s the Anglicism of manners. For some reason in English we demand one lie to protect everyone’s feelings.

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They have earned their reputation, good and bad.

Exceptions show nuance, but they don’t undermine this reputation to the point of irrelevance.

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“But, we’re like fAmIlY.”

Yeah bub, that’s not a selling point. I didn’t pick them either.

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Vin Diesel appears in the corner saying “Uhm… What did you say?” while he is setting up a barbecue at the same time.

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Yeah yeah, you are Groot. We know.

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You stay, I go. No following!

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I love you guys

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“I don’t like my family, either.”

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Dudes ready for the office culture.

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I cannot tolerate office culture. It’s so unbearably insincere and manipulative in my experience.

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“If you could just do this stupid unnecessary thing, that’d be great.” sips coffee

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I find the trick is to spin what I want to say into somthing positive. I can’t lie but I can avoid the questions, or just be vague.

In this situation. “Will you miss us?” (assuming I won’t)

“Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future” (not implying I actually want to)

“So long everyone!”(ignores the question, this may also end the conversation as youve given yourself an out)

“I’m sure I’ll meet many new people at my next opportunity” (to them it may imply you where happy to meet them, even if you where not)

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In this case, he was never going to see these people again, so no need to play the neurotypical game of lying to spare their feelings.

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Fair enough. You never know though. A place that fired me a years back in a city far from where I live now, is now my primary vendor. I need to work with them closely. So I am happy I didn’t burn too many bridges on the way out.

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The cost is dishonesty, which to me is significant.

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I love how you just COMPLETELY ignore the fact that the people have obviously not been enjoyable to be around for an extended amount of time

Having to spend time around people you don’t enjoy? perfectly fine
making those people a little sad once? how dare you

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“Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future.”

I couldn’t help but read that in a generic Vulcan voice that was a mix of Spock and the “We ain’t found shit!” guy.

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The “we ain’t found shit” guy from Spaceballs was a Vulkan in Star Trek Voyager, Tim Russ played Tuvok. So really, you can read it in just Tuvok’s voice.

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I was joking that Tim Russ complains that is the role he is known for. I personally know him more as Tuvok, but that’s because my parents wouldn’t let me watch Spaceballs, so I saw Voyager first

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Well it does say “infront if everyone”. I assumed that also includes coleuages. Co workers are not corporate overlords.

I’m not saying it’s a good thing, it’s another dumb micro ceremony regardless. And if you in a position where you don’t have to play the stupid games then I envy you. But my advice my be of some use for those us poor bastards who need to play along.

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¯\(ツ)

nvm me - i’m just wondering if you put yours in italics

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This feels like the moment I realized that figuring out a way to say ‘thank you’ rather than ‘I’m sorry’ grants +1 CHA

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