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It gets so much worse after that, though. I have no idea why people have children or some people are so incredibly stoked/obsessed with it.

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Let me guess, you don’t have kids. Trust me it goes both ways. I’m reading your comment and I also have no idea why anyone would hold such stance

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Yes, how’d you guess? And yes, that is on purpose. I’m also quite aware that people who are parents think it’s odd or unusual to not want to do that. I’m not saying I think children are ‘bad’ or parents regret their choices (although realistically, some do) … just that personally I don’t get it, same as I don’t understand why some people would want to have 5 dogs. I’m over 40 and have known plenty of people who are parents and mostly, they seem to like it. I’ve had several girlfriends who wanted to have children and I was basically uh, no, you should do that with someone else. But also my life is pretty fucked up. Maybe if I had better health and had chosen a more stable career I’d feel differently.

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we’d be extinct

Good.

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Lead by example.

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So… nobody would be around to lament that, so why would it matter?

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Shame…

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The little bastards brainwash you.

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a little bit of Stockholm syndrome and some trauma bonding.

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I’ve come to the realization that some people really really do enjoy having children and actively want them. I am not one of them. You probably aren’t either or you’d understand it. I don’t understand it either, so I assume it’s for a niche that isn’t me. Or rather, less assume, more have seen. I know these people exist as I’ve seen them, but I do not understand them. But I figure that’s ok.

Unfortunately, most people don’t take this sort of view and assume everyone is like them, leading to stupid absolutist nonsense that they can’t seem to see past.

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Kids are way cooler than most adults I know. At least those past the age of screaming to be fed. They’re willing to listen and learn. They’re excited about everything. You can fix a kid’s bad mood by making a funny face. Fucking adults are the ones out there screwing everything up (including kids.)

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That’s true, some kids are very cool to hang out with. They’re just people, after all, and everyone is different. Children of course are very much a reflection of their environment, with a few exceptions.

I guess what I object to is people who think the only reason they exist is to reproduce, and that somehow it’s extremely virtuous, like they’re doing the world a favor. What’s the point of living only to have children? That’s what a virus or something does. There needs to be something more interesting about a person, more going on than ‘I reproduced’.

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@Underwaterbob @Zeppo it also applies to kids-at-heart, where we can be easily distracted.

Stick me in a room with Wolfblood (a supernatural CBBC drama show) on and i’ll be watching it until the end, roughly 28 hours later.

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I’m similar with a good book. Though I’ve definitely never quite gone 28 hours. At least not for a couple of decades now.

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I haven’t experienced either of these, but I’m fairly certain that period pain is less intense than being literally stabbed with a knife.

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I literally become physically incapacitated, puking in pain (usually the first day being the worst and have landed me in the hospital on several occasions), without hormonal birth control to help. You wanna try that then get stabbed and tell me which is worse?

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I’m not saying all stab wounds are worse than all periods. I sliced my finger with a pocket knife once and am fairly confident it was not as bad as period pain. But in general, the average pain and seriousness of being stabbed with a knife is going to be greater than the average pain and seriousness of having your period. The simple fact that while having your period is almost never fatal (and usually limited to societies with poor sanitization combined with “menstrual hut” practices), compared to stab wounds which are about 10-15% fatal, supports this.

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I mean maybe, but there’s also all the blood loss

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Popping the baby zit is way more painful than the 9 stabbings.

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For the other men that see this: The stabbing is the pain of cramps. Had to ask my wife on this, as I wasnt sure what was meant.

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I’m a woman and I also didn’t get it. It’s different for everyone I guess.

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Thank you, the reference was not landing for me.

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Just get pregnant every month and get an abortion. Of course, keep the fetuses for the fetus room

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I know that’s a joke, but seriously, getting an abortion or having a miscarriage hurts like hell and isn’t a good alternative.

Birth control can be a lot better, but most of what modern science can do is just trick the body into thinking it’s pregnant when it’s not with hormones or copper (which makes it toxic for sperm and eggs). So it’s not going to fix everything and there are many possible side effects that can be quite frustrating to deal with.

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