I love dating girls that haven’t seen anything. Movie nights at home are a great way to chill.
The thing is, the reason I haven’t seen anything is because I’m not interested and don’t have enough of an attention span to sit through stuff I’m not super into, so any time someone I’ve dated has been like, “we can watch so many things together!” my response is no thank you.
You’re missing out on the hanging out part of it. Cook food together, put the movie on, Talk about anything you two want, pay attention to whatever scenes they really think is cool. It doesn’t matter if you pay that much attention to it. You’re being together.
People who are “into movies” don’t tend to like it when you talk through movies…
I always find it interesting when someone states they don’t enjoy an activity and one of the first responses are to subtly guilt the commenter for not enjoying an activity.
I’ve been losing interest in movies for the past 15-20 years and being guilted into enjoy something I no longer enjoy for someone else’s expense does not sound like fun.
Fortunately there are plenty of activities to do together. As you mentioned, cooking together sounds great to me. So does walking in nature. I especially love playing music for each other because I love hearing what other people listen to.
Humans are wonderfully complex and there’s plenty in the world to for us to enjoy.
Yeah but we can do that without the distraction of a movie or show on in the background. Plus, a lot of people really, really want you to love the thing as much as they do, so if you’re not into it, they take it kind of personally, and I’m rarely into it. I don’t show people movies I really love anymore (unsolicited) after realizing that I’d spend the whole time worrying about what they think of it instead of just enjoying it.
I know someone who takes a weird amount of pride in having never seen star wars.
Like, mocks people for liking “such a childish piece of garbage”, has to butt in every time he overhears someone talking about it to let everyone know “I’ve never seen it and no I won’t watch it with you”
So far not a single person I’ve spoken to has wanted to watch it with him anyway.
Like it’s cool if you don’t like it, it’s cool if you’ve never seen it, but like… Come on Bro.
Imagine shitting on something you’ve never even watched. What a clown of a person.
That’s a popular thing to do for people who think they’re terminally cool. I was like that in my teens and still cringe about how insufferable I was. I know people in their 30s and 40s who went around telling everyone how proud they were that they weren’t watching GoT like it was some kind of CrossFit activity.
I mean, I agree with them. Star Wars is pretty derivative, but it helped mainstream nerd culture in a way so I can’t complain
Too many people make watching shows and movies their whole personality.
There is more to life than just consuming content from Hollywood.
Or don’t watch stuff made by massive companies. It’s all just made to sell. It’s a product not art.
Find small independent artists and studios and follow and support them.
Anime and Arch linux btw are the alternative personalities and I’m here for it.
Movies are pretty fun! If you stick to indie films or what’s shown at film festivals, you really get to experience great art. I can’t speak to Hollywood movies though, but I watch some popular action flicks now and again like John Wick or Planet Terror (2007).
Also try non-American movies, it’s refreshing to see different povs to similar themes circumstance. I find that niche old movies are pretty awesome too, but you have to dig for gold unless you go with a trusted review source.
Lastly if you’re having a bad time with movies avoid most things made by Amazon, Netflix etc. I find their most of their writers or directors seldom have any artistic vision beyond just copying what’s been done before.
I met a 50 yr old software dev who had never HEARD of Monty Python. Not even seen.
Yah, they were bullshitting you. Nobody in their 50s that wasn’t raised in a bomb shelter hasn’t heard of The Meaning of Life.
? Meaning of life is absolutely not what I heard about growing up. Mostly Holy Grail. Once I joined reddit years back I saw life of Brian stuff. I’m not sure I heard of Meaning of Life before you just mentioned it. I actually assumed you meant life of Brian until I googled it. I’m also in IT, and have been since '99.
I’ve heard of it but never seen more than clips here and there and a play a girlfriend took me too once. I don’t really feel the need to either because it’s all been quoted so much that I don’t think there’s anything left to surprise me. There certainly wasn’t in the play. She was kind of pissed that I wasn’t hyped about it but I’ve literally been listening to unfunny people reference all those jokes basically my entire life it’s all been beat to death at this point.
I watched Monty Python holy grail after hearing about it so much on the internet. After finally watching it, my opinion was basically that I already watched all the funny parts through random clips and references made in Reddit multiple times. The rest of it was pretty dull and my entire experience as a result was meh. So you might not enjoy watching it either.
Honestly, I love making friends with people who haven’t experienced some of the really incredible pieces of pop culture, because I get to see them react to seeing something incredible for the first time. Your reaction should never be "omg you’ve never seen this before, what kinda weird alien are you? and more “omg you’ve never seen this before? okay we have to watch it real soon, it’s incredible.”
It’s only really annoying if the person is some kinda incel who has made it a point of pride to be uncultured and refuses to watch or appreciate good movies/TV.
What about someone who truly does not enjoy watching TV or movies?
I understand I’m in a very small minority. However watching TV shows or movies doesn’t interest me at all.
Watching TV or Movies to me is like having stare at a blank wall for 3 hours and forced notice how the faint cracks on the paint spider along it for the entire time. Afterwards I’m supposed to feel like it changed my life or it was somehow an enjoyable experience.
It’s absolutely not my cup of tea.
I don’t hate anyone for enjoying them either. I’ll listen to friends or family talk about things they watch. I enjoy seeing how much they enjoyed watching it. It just doesn’t interest me in the slightest.
I’ve never met someone who doesn’t enjoy movies and TV series at least to some degree. What do you not like? Is it fiction, or stories in general? Do you like documentaries? Podcasts? Books and audiobooks? Role playing games? What about music? What kind of stuff do you do for a living? What do you do during downtime and in your free time?
Sorry if I’m coming on a little strong, I’m just very curious.
I’m not a huge fiction person in general, most of the books I read are textbooks/technical manuals or other non-fiction.
Some documentaries are fine, it’s highly variable based on the subject matter and how much the director tried to make it “movie-like”.
I’m not a fan of music most of the time, I only really listen to it when I’m exercising. It’s basically to set the vibe for my brain.
However I do play role playing games quite a bit, which for some reason my brain has decided is not boring.
Podcasts though, make my brain release that sweet, sweet, dopamine drip… I listened to something like 52 days worth of podcasts last year? Again most of the topics are the same as the books I read.
I do consulting, so podcasts fill the void between meetings, if I need to taking a break, or as an escape hatch so if I have a particularly hellish client, I don’t fire them.
I don’t particularly like having “free time”. If I’m not being productive, my brain goes “Ah, I see we decided on depression as our option. Magnificent choice sir!” I basically have to scratch a particular itch my brain wants me to scratch to maintain my mental health.
Which is partly why I’m in consulting, it scratches that itch and I get paid so it’s kinda a good gig.
There are two types of people in the world, those who will belittle you for not knowing what they know, and those who will be excited that they get to expose you to new knowledge. Date the second type.
