Here’s the thing. If you allow the cheating partner to leave without explaining it, they’re gonna use that time to try and poison the well. They’ll start spinning stories about why they left – stories that paint the non-cheater as an abuser, for example. They have to bring the non-cheater down so that when the kids DO inevitably find out, they’re left believing that the split was mutual.

By forcing her hand immediately, you made sure she wouldn’t have time to create “plausible doubt” in the kids’ heads. That’s why she’s really upset, not because they found out (they would have inevitably found out), but because she didn’t have a chance to make you look as bad as she was.

Yeah, that previous explanation makes no sense – the YT guy who recorded his entire session was deleting the same stuff over and over again.

That’s why you start with so-called “small talk”. It’s rare that anybody really cares to talk about the weather, or notable local news, or the performance of the regional sports teams. But these subjects are safe. They give your conversation partners an opportunity to give an opinion and hint at their real interests (their families, their hobbies, etc) without broaching subjects that others might find exceptionally unpleasant or offensive.

So, don’t “jump from one topic to another that has nothing to do with the previous”. Give your conversation partners opportunities to change the subject, in a way that feels natural.

I almost became a meteorologist! 2 years of grad school, but decided to quit before I became the bitterest person on Earth.

With respect, I think you’re ignoring the facts. How it’s prepared absolutely makes a difference in how it tastes, how easy it is to eat, etc. and there is a resulting effect on how much people eat.

Freshly grilled chicken and frozen chicken patties are both chicken. But the chicken patty is ground, pre-seasoned, pre-cooked, etc. This makes it easier to get ready and easier to eat than a fresh chicken breast.

The poison is in the dose, as they say. 500 calorie surplus every day is a pound a week of weight gain.

And as dieticians have shown us over and over again, you can eat shitty food and be healthy, you just have to eat an appropriate amount of it. There are diets based on cookies and snack cakes, if you eat at your maintenance and cover a few basics with supplements, you can easily thrive on them.

To their credit, they say “ultra-processed” to capture this distinction.

I call for banning the bans.

There are a lot of niche communities that will stay on reddit for a long time.

But let’s face it, the prolific posters on the big subs, the ones that generate lots of views and engagement and comments, are already leaving reddit. They were posting there because it was fun and easy. They weren’t paid, except in laughs and comments. When reddit decided to sacrifice usability on the altar of revenue, they started to drive those people away. As reddit makes more changes to align to revenue generation, they’ll drive the most prolific posters away, and eventually regular consumers of that content will quit coming.

Many will come to lemmy and kbin and Mastodon, in time.

They’ve been in Early Access for 3 years. They need to stop cutting bait and start fishing.

Enough is enough!