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SouthernLight@lemmy.ml
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This is amazing. I had never seen this before. Thank you for sharing.

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Not being coy: can you help me understand the word choice of “opportune”?

I’ve recently become fascinated by history and the underpinned stories that really get to the answers to the WHY questions.

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I logically know this, but I just can’t seem to get past it. Hence the question as the title.

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I’ve invested quite heavily in therapy, both individual and group in the past couple of years.

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One of the biggest things that I’ve come to realize is that despite my PO parents saying I was their priority they failed to move towards me when I needed them most. It’s their lack of attunement that hurts.

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Yep. Distance is different than cutting him off. I have a ton of guilt. We recently had our first child and he hasn’t met his grandchild.

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It’s not. I promise. I recently made this account because my others were too identifying of me.

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Thanks for your empathy and understanding.

I try to talk about this in therapy but I still seem stuck. I wake up in the middle of the night angry, sad, and crying.

Even trying to set boundaries and communicate them to him leads me to rage and sadness. For years I didn’t recognize that when I’ve spent any time with him it usually takes several days to come back to being fully regulated. I could probably recover faster now that I’ve been to therapy, but I’m frozen in fear that he’ll try to use his wealth to try to control me and the decisions I make for my family.

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