Solo travel is the besssst. I tried it tentatively shortly after my divorce, too, and it was a great experience. It’s really helpful in that you get to take some time to focus on being comfortable with who you are as a person (not someone’s spouse or whatever but who YOU are.) No work or other responsibilities to distract you, so you do a lot of self-discovery while exploring a new place.

I don’t have a lot of travel tips because I have always been not really able to afford international travel except for very recently, but I am so proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone and taking that step. Now you get to start the countdown and planning for your comfort and safety during travel. I personally love that part, but I know not everyone does.

I’m sorry you’re stuck in this situation for a while. Yoga and meditation are definitely a good start but I feel like adding either journaling your TRUE feelings about what is going on or talking with a therapist or trusted friend about the things you really need to get off your chest–because leaving all these things you feel you need to say unsaid is obviously making your life harder.

Yes, I started working on my grief in therapy about a year ago, and I have a friend who is a counselor, along with some close friends and family I talk about my mental health with often. I have also been working toward being more of an actual Buddhist than an occasional meditator as this year progressed. It has been very helpful in understanding the fact that life is not easy but beautiful anyway.

I hadn’t heard of The Blue Zones, but now you have me curious. I will look into them. I am always looking for new ways to up my mental health game.

I agree with the part of you that says it’s self-care. We all need downtime, especially if it’s been a long time since you’ve been able to enjoy a whole day or real rest.

I just called that number and it was a9dorable! Sweet life advice and pep talks from little kids. I loved it!

When I used to work outside my house, I tried to do something every day that would really make someone’s day like that, too. Giving extra compliments or helping with something I knew someone was struggling with but probably wouldn’t ask for anyone to help them. When you work in a healthcare setting, it’s easy to find opportunities to do those things. Now I’m always at home and there are only so many things I can do. That’s why I spend all my time trying to get people to talk to me on Lemmy.

I agree! Some of my favorite things are petting dogs, smelling babies, and making comfort food in vintage or good-eough-quality-to-pass-down-to-my-chidren cook or bakeware. Making the most of the things I already have in my life always gives me a little boost.

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I’m so sorry you’re stuck in this limbo I’m glad you’re here and venting when you feel like letting off some steam. I hope you are taking care of your physical and mental health to the best of your ability,

I know not everyone can afford therapy, but it really seems like you may benefit from having someone to talk to who would have your back a bit–someone to help you bring out the person you are outside of all the noise–the pain, bad relationship;p, being out of work-- just who you are at the core without all the things pulling you away from your center. I feel like that might be someone who is a lot of fun to hang out with.

If you can’t make therapy happen, please find a way to work mindfulness and meditation into your life. It can be done for free (my favorite price) and if you find the right book, website or podcast that is inspiring to you, it can change your life. Honestly, my life is not a lot better than yours, but I have a lot more fun because I choose to every day. Some days it’s not that easy but it’s possible. If you want to know more about fee resources, I can point you in the right direction;

My mind is similar, and my process is just to let the thousands of concurrent thoughts come, put that on a mental to-do list to sort out later and move back to what I was trying to focus on, to begin with. No need to process it all right away. You can think about why you had those particular thoughts when you are not meditating, (if it’s something practical like “man I really need to vacuum this floor” you can take care of it), or the next time you meditate you can actually focus on the emotions or maybe memories that popped up if they are important to you to sort out.

I use guided meditations through a podcast sometimes, and I also just do some slow/even breathing and/or walking while focusing on my body and breath. I find it helpful to repeat some sort of mantra or phrase in my head at first in order to get me started when there is no podcast going.