I mean, I haven’t stopped to read the article yet (gonna save it for later) but it seems like a pretty fair priority to consider when moving, or when considering the possibility of moving
We move for jobs, and for family, really good friends are a sincerly precious thing, and are at least as important as those reasons to move.
The article makes a similar point, overlapping with the ”the extended family we chose" argument, both of which have some merit.
However, personally I have experienced that friendships are a product of the circumstances and old friends are often only held together by nostalgia for the times when circumstances brought them together. Thus as a result of this, I think continuing friendships like described in the article isn’t that much different from finding new friendships when the circumstances allow it.
I agree with your points. Though for me a big difference has been friends I made before ~25 and friends after 25. There is no way I would want to live anywhere near friends I made before that age. Being in my early thirties, who knows how I’ll feel 10 years down the line. Doing this communal living is a big commitment which might be hard to get out of.
Same! Pre / post uni friends is the rough line for me. I have one friend from school still, a few from uni but the rest is more recent than that.
Still, I’d argue (re the previous post but my reply fit better here) that even the “nostalgia friends” aren’t any different from birth family.
Family just comes with more inherent guilt to uphold the nostalgia lol
@Cris_Color @poVoq If I had the choice I would move for friends. Where I am is a little isolated and that impacts me more than I’d like to admit.
🫂 I have a very isolating sleep disorder (I’m only awake at night which makes it hard to see folks even if they live nearby)
Isolation is rough. Sending love from my corner of the world to yours.
@Cris_Color thank you. You have no idea how relevant this is right now.
no one moves for a job of equivalent compensation though. either its because its a choice of job or no job or a choice of job at x pay vs job at 2x pay. its hard to compare that to the rest because its needed ot afford a place to live.
