ID: MUNROE @MunroeBergdorf posted: “Please don’t be surprised if I block you instead of engaging in ‘a debate’ about issues that don’t affect you, but impact on my life greatly. I do not need to, nor want to converse with people who prioritize their desire to prove a point, over my humanity and rights.”

Amanda Jette Knox @MunroeBergdorf replies: “THIS. You owe no one a debate on who you are, ever. Not online. Not in person. Not in the media.”

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Issues that impact my life greatly are issues I WANT to talk about and debate with others.

Especially gender-war issues and sexism that have just about ruined my life at this point.

I only agree with the image that I greatly prefer to talk to people that have serious experience with these issues. Unfortunately those are the people least willing to talk about them, and I believe that this is a major barrier to our society solving these issues.

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Can you not understand the difference between wanting to do something, and something being demanded of you?

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Don’t feed the troll.

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in this case it was necessary and constructive

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Personally, I would consider making a public post about something on social media as an open invitation to talk about it in comments. It doesn’t excuse being rude or anything, but if it was about an issue in my life that I was comfortable sharing, I would expect others to appreciate giving and receiving perspective if they didn’t specify otherwise.

Not sure who would be demanding anything in this scenario. People choose to comment or not, including the OP. Everyone is communicating only as much as they feel comfortable doing, unless there’s context I’m missing.

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You also don’t get what me nor op is saying evidently.

You aren’t the one doing the demanding.

You do whatever the fuck you want to do, debate as many fuckers as you fucking please, but when others demand marginalised people debate them, as is stated in OP we don’t owe them shit.

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oh my gosh it’s you. :( even after our conversation you still made this comment? i… that’s just really sad. i definitely made the right choice in disengaging.

please take your time away to learn and grow as a person.

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