Yes, I believe re-reading your comment (not sure if it was post or pre edit) finally made me put all the pieces together.
If this is single player, the controversy is even more dumb than I had originally thought.
Now I am curious what the default pronoun options are, and if you were able to skip choosing it entirely, or pick “other” or “none”?
Apparently it defaults to the one matching your phenotype. The game gave you the option to change it if you felt like it. The mod removed that option and may have had a rant against the existence of LGBT+ people in its description and that description was the cause for removal (I can’t verify since it was removed, but that’s what others have said).
Does anyone know what the list is? Can you even choose they/them or xe/xem? Or is it just you could pick the inverse?