Rally’s comment is generally good advice, and doesn’t place blame on anyone.
It’s in response to a girl getting punished for being recorded doing nothing wrong. Read the room and the context. It absolutely is victim blaming.
It’s just advice for my kids that I shared. It may be good or bad advice based on your opinions and experiences. Take it, or leave it. But how do you jump to victim blaming?
Because of the context of the post you left that comment on?
Come on dude, you managed to put pants on today right? We know you arent as stupid as youre trying to pretend you are.
I have read the room. The victim is not here. OP got the article from a news source.
THUS… we don’t need to worry about hurting her feelings. How else CAN we contribute? Well, one constructive way is to share advice for how to prevent this. It’s a good practice to not do or say things unless you’re comfortable being recorded.
I agree her punishment is inappropriate, but I don’t control that high school. All I control is whether I do things I don’t want recorded or not.
How about if we rephrase it as “don’t do things that someone else can victimize you for.” Can you see how there can be a correlation with victim blaming?
The contextual difference here is that the woman in question was dancing at a private party. That is something that’s okay to be comfortable with, even if a friend is recording. Thus, the problem here isn’t that she shouldn’t have done that, but that others victimized her over it.
That’s why Rally’s advice is getting criticized. It’s getting correlated with “don’t do things you enjoy in private with your friends because someone terrible might do terrible things to you.” This is genuinely terrible advice.
