Lemdro.id

-18 points

9 months ago

This may be true for some, but so, so many of us want to find more time to be with ourselves. To disconnect and spend more time away from people. Just to enjoy some peace and quiet.

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Stamets@lemmy.worldOP

22 points

9 months ago

That’s not being lonely then, is it?

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-17 points

9 months ago

That’s what I mean. Some people may be lonely, but others crave to be alone.

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Stamets@lemmy.worldOP

28 points

9 months ago

No, you’re not getting it.

This article is about loneliness, not about being alone. People who like being alone have nothing to do with this article. What you’ve effectively done is come in and say “Yeah I know you guys are really upset and your mental health is totally fucked by this but I’m really happy and this is awesome!”

This article has literally nothing to do with enjoying being alone. It is about the dead opposite of that. That’s what I mean by saying then that’s not being lonely. If you enjoy it then this article isn’t for you. Let the people who it is for actually discuss it without immediately minimizing our pain and stress over the situation.

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-1 points

9 months ago

I didn’t mean to minimize anything, and I’m sorry if it came out that way.

I understand and acknowledge that some people, for one reason or another, are suffering from loneliness.

But I also acknowledge that the opposite has happened to others. They are too overwhelmed by the constant interactions they have, either digitally or face-to-face, and want to distance themselves from these interactions, but often can’t.

Both loneliness and the inability to detach from constant interactions are both quite bad for mental health. It’s not a competition; people from opposite ends of the spectrum are suffering.

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Stamets@lemmy.worldOP

12 points

9 months ago

I’m not sure how else I’m supposed to explain this to you other than this.

This isn’t about you. This is about people who are upset and depressed and need help because of loneliness. You clearly are not part of that group as you keep saying. You claim that you are not here to minimize but here you are, doubling down, and minimizing the suffering that lonely people are going through. Not people who are alone. People who are lonely. Not people who are enjoying solitude. People who are lonely. Not people who are dealing with being overwhelmed. People who are lonely.

To put it in another form, you’re effectively walking into an eating disorder clinic and saying “Yeah, this place might be needed for some but I mean for a lot of us it’s an outlet.” Do you get it now?

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Beachgoingcitizen@lemmy.world

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2 points

9 months ago

This dude aint minimizing anyones suffering. I can imagine that people who are overwhelmed by the rigours of modern living and need to retreat is one of the contributing factors to a fractured society that results in lonely people.

The article even says at much.

Dont hate on this person for acknowledging that the people respond differntly to the same broken system. Everyones hurting man

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-6 points

9 months ago

This isn’t about you.

I didn’t realize that it was. I never said that it was.

This is about people who are upset and depressed and need help because of loneliness.

Yes, I understand that completely.

To put it in another form, you’re effectively walking into an eating disorder clinic and saying “Yeah, this place might be needed for some but I mean for a lot of us it’s an outlet.” Do you get it now?

No, I haven’t, and it’s strange to think that anyone would get that from what I wrote.

I was merely acknowledging that there are two extremes to this mental struggle: loneliness, and people who are overwhelmed by having too much contact. Neither is worse off than the other, neither is suffering more than the other, mental illness isn’t a competition, anyone who is suffering needs their own form of self-care and attention.

Without wanting to offend anyone else, that’s all I have to say.

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Kecessa@sh.itjust.works

8 points

9 months ago

If you want to be alone so much you should stop replying to posts by trying to make them about yourself.

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HeartyBeast@kbin.social

3 points

9 months ago

You might havwe well posted “Some people don’t like cheese”. It’s not relevant to this article

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-2 points

9 months ago

Mental illness is a spectrum disorder. If you only isolate or focus one form of suffering (i.e. loneliness), then you’ll never find a solution or get past the problem.

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