I like it. I finger myself sometimes. The last time I tried it with my previous partner, I gave her a pair of thick rubber kitchen gloves so her manicured nails wouldn’t be a hygiene issue. She used oil-based lube and stuck a couple fingers in. It didn’t feel great, but I would have preferred she continue rather than stopping at the slightest sign of discomfort. Pain and nonconsent are my kinks, but I’ve accepted that few people are true sadists.
I haven’t had as many male partners, nor have my male relationships lasted as long. It’s not that I don’t like guys, but my type is more effeminate and cute while still dominant. Very, very few people like that in the world.