Just ask first 🙂 don’t go all “no one expects the Spanish inquisition!”
Issue I’ve run into is partners don’t realize they need lube to do that. Spit kinda works but not really.
You can even just play with the hole and not put anything in and it’ll feel nice.
Hopefully it is clear that you should ask and communicate. 😀 With a little lubricant it is definitely easier and more fun. If I do it myself while jerking off, then the finger goes in quite well without lubricant, but if the woman does it, please do so with a little moisture. Playing at the hole is also very exciting and you don’t always have to push something in.
No. I’ve tried prostate massage, and it does absolutely nothing for me. It’s not painful, but it’s also not enjoyable; it mostly just feels mildly awkward. I genuinely do not see what gay men get out of it on the receiving end.
The idea that all men likes it, and men that don’t like it just haven’t tried it correctly yet is just… Dumb. Like, it’s a level of stupid that’s on the order of insisting that lesbians just haven’t had the right dick yet.
Tried both, I generally prefer on the butthole than in the butthole
But I haven’t tried every toy or every combination of butt + sex stuff either!
As always, with life and sex, open, honest, clear, communication is the key to satisfaction
Nope.
2 thoughts here:
- During penetrative sex, eh. Honestly, it makes it tough for me to stay hard (despite it feeling good)
- It can never be a surprise for me. Being clean is a hard rule, so spontaneous butt stuff is a no.