They are just assholes. It’s not that difficult to make vegan food, they just don’t want to go out of their way to make some for you. I have bunch of vegan and vegetarian friends. Vegans are definitely harder to make food for, but if we are making some food, they better help out if with nothing else with advice or recipes. But I’ve never found it difficult to prepare extra meal or two. It’s just them being lazy.
they just don’t want to go out of their way to make some for you
But that’s the thing, they do. They just also supplement that with a healthy dose of their opinion. These people aren’t assholes (specifically my friends, there are of course assholes in every group), they just naturally get very defensive because I’m a walking contradiction to a few of their deeply held beliefs.
Well, black sheep always get that treatment and not only because of food. Doing anything different than what crowd expects will give you weird gazes. Though, I don’t understand the part where you need to get the lecture every time if they don’t mind making food for you. Either do it or don’t.