Once again (because of your amnesia), I don’t define words. The dictionary does. Children understand this concept. Why do you struggle so much with it?
And of you don’t know what the words “friendly” and “debate” mean, then you shouldn’t be using them in a sentence.
As for this “anguish” you keep fantasizing about, you really should see a doctor about that.
A psychotherapist would be able to help you with your fantasizing that internet strangers that hurt your feelings are, themselves, feeling the “anguish” you feel.
Psychologists call it “projection”.
And if you hadn’t gambled your health and well-being on not getting health insurance, you wouldn’t have to pay so much for that therapy. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
You haven’t hurt my feelings but you have said that I attacked you personally but your unwilling to say where or how.