I had a therapist who specialized in working with ADHD adults and she was very good about calling me out on my “shoulds”. She would say “who told you that?” or “why do you feel that way?” or “where does that belief come from?” just about every time a “should” came out of my mouth. It was a really good practice in reframing, and making me realize I was feeling external pressures by comparing myself to others, or not giving myself the time and space I needed to accomplish the things that would satisy me. I’d encourage everyone in this thread to try getting to the bottom of your “shoulds”, it’s helped me understand and be kinder to myself.
“Hey this sounds like–”
Notices community
“–Oh. Wait, was I on Lemmy relaxing or avoiding work?”
I can spend an entire long weekend vaccilating between these two, while not actually doing anything at all or advancing any goals, AND arriving back at work on Monday feeling so much worse than I did before the weekend started - only to crave more time off that I wouldn’t actually know what to do with anyway.
Someone mercy kill me, please.
maybe you’re not bad at either of them?
