It took me 30 years to learn I’ve CPTSD.
Fake it till you make it is a sucessfull postponement to existential questions.
Same.
I guess the ‘lesson’ would be:
If you can do a thought exercise about a or multiple personal relationships you have with adults, and you conclude that a blatant, repeated and normalized double standard exists where if you treated these persons they way they treat you, for just one day or one week, and you know they would become enraged, furious and indignant, that their world would collapse around them without you bearing emotional / physical / mental / financial / planning responsibilities or tasks for them…
Run. Leave. Block. Cut off all contact.
Such people cannot be changed, and your life will be better without them.
Drink water.
So many odd physical conditions ended up being the result of dehydration and went away once I started drinking water throughout my day. I was in my 30s when I learned that one.
Seemingly everything:
• Muscle aches
• Joint pain
• Brain fog
• Depression & anxiety
• Increased heart rate
• Energy level
• Mood
Sooo… safe to say, a lot of things! And this isn’t including other things like organ heath, skin, teeth, sleep quality….
And for other people reading this threat - always have a water bottle standing next to you! For me it was a bit game changer to have water quickly accessible. I’ve also implemented a tradition of drinking a bottle every morning - that immensely helps in getting your body active.
Only downside is that you’ll go to the toilet often.
Being outside for a little bit every day. The walk from the office to your car is not enough
You don’t have to.
Anything really. No matter what your friends say, what your family says, you’re not obligated to live your life in a way which is not comfortable for you. Or put yourself into situations you dislike just to please other’s expectations.
Do it your way. Do your best to be a good person of course (according to whichever moral standard you hold). But do it your way.
The word “No” is such a life-changer and it’s definitely something I learned to apply only recently. I grew up being told to be obedient. Parents demanded it and school enforced it. It made me into a people pleaser and it sucked having to do things that I did not enjoy simply because it was what was expected of me.
I’m still struggling with No but I’ve been trying everyday to keep saying No to things I don’t particularly like.
Sometimes you just need a day or two where you don’t do a damned thing and there should be no shame in it. Self-care is often described as things one can do, active things, verbs. Sometimes the compulsion to always be doing something is the crux of the problem
