I don’t know if anyone else has this problem but I have a really pacific issue. In general just I suck at talking. I find it hard to put my thoughts to words, I never know what words to use and I never know what to say.
I talk like xQc irl and the act of using words to hard I’m always slurring them out even tho I try not to and I have a stutter and a slip so saying thing is very hard.
I’ve done toastmasters a long time a go, and it really benefits me till today.
Freeze
Another response to danger is your body hitting the pause button altogether. The freeze response involves becoming immobilized or “freezing” in response to a threat. This can involve a state of paralysis or being unable to move. It’s thought that this response might have evolved as a way to avoid being noticed by a predator or to remain still in the hopes that the threat will pass by.
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-happens-to-your-body-during-the-fight-or-flight-response
I would suggest emailing improv groups around you to see if you could join a class that’s supportive. Make sure to ask the teacher ahead of time so you can get a feel for if they’d be good for you or not and if they’re willing to work with you. If you could take a friend that’s interested as well, that would help for you to work with someone you trust.
I got a job as a door to door salesman for a year and by the end of it I felt like talking in a way that was both fluid and engaging was my superpower. This is after having such crippling social anxiety that I would often run home and hide. It may be an impractical suggestion, but I would advise you find a structured way to practice where the goal isn’t just talking for its own sake.
Speech pathology for the stutter and the slip. You can find some free help online but be careful, trying to fix speech issues on your own can make things worse in some cases. If you can, seek professional input.
If you legitimately speak like xQc, the first thing I’d tell you is to slow the hell down. That guy would probably get as much information out in the same amount of time, but easier to understand, if he just didn’t try speaking that fast. Last I heard it, even his québécois french was slurred.
As to finding the right words when speaking, it tends to come with knowing your subject well enough, and having decent vocabulary.
Past that, if you do struggle with the very act of translating ideas into the physical act of speaking, it could be a speech disorder which could likely benefit from speech therapy.
