And apparently, also when you think that ‘They’ is a perfectly serviceable gender-neutral singular pronoun, but are willing to use other pronouns if asked to.
EDIT: Other removable offenses on Blahaj now include questioning mod/admin decisions and quoting the modlog as a reason why you’re leaving.
Please refer to my comment on this related post: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/34327347/15649022
@Flatworm7591@lemmy.dbzer0.com why is this post still open when you locked the other one? Seems strange to me, both are equally contentious and have devolved into mostly a slap-fight. PugJesus has stated he wants to leave Blahaj but is still causing drama here over this whole affair, instead of moving on with his life.
Sorry, Hate me but if peoples are having and not hurting anyone. I wouldn’t care. Yeah, Dragonfucker have confusing pronoun and I am not even native english speaker. That’s why I avoid talking to Dragonfucker if I accidentally mispronounced then everyone will think I am homophobe?
But “They” is gender nuetral term.
We really need to stop complaining about the pronouns shit, the real problem with dragonfucker isn’t with the preferred pronouns, it’s the fact that dragonfucker is known to harass individuals who call them out on their trolling or sealioning or disagree with them in any way they can’t spin as aggressive or hateful.
I was harassed by an alt of this person because I called them out for their behavior when they decided to make a public attack post on me (now deleted) because I preemptively banned their user account and “spouse” account from communities I moderated for trolling, sealioning, and bad faith arguments.
I clarified that politely and reasonably and also properly contacted pawb.social’s admins (since the mentions in their comment weren’t done properly) and the following response was to create @draconicistransphobc@discuss.online and create !fuckdraconicneo@discuss.online and start spamming it with abusive content attempting to defame, humiliate, intimidate, or even just scare me. That account also sent me porn in my DMs and made rude insults towards me. I was also told to kill myself and also sent death threats, including an invitation for admins to give out my IP address so I could be hunted down and tortured.
I’m almost certain that dragonfucker is the one who did this since it happened immediately after the post which was made on !meta@pawb.social complaining about the bans, and also there were many slip-ups by that account which indicated it was an alt belonging to dragonfucker. Unfortunately beyond that dragonfucker likely did a good job at covering their tracks, or Lemmy just sucks at identifying people, probably both, but I’m confident enough that I’d be willing to bet real money it was dragonfucker, the circumstances are way too suspicious.
Edit:
Here are some of the messages and comment mentions from the alt account mentioned in the post, fair warning, they’re not pleasant. Pornographic imagery has been censored.
CW: Abusive content, threats, suicide encouragement, harassment
A lot of contextual information for these isn’t here, to get it the admins of pawb.social and discuss.online would need to be contacted as the content and user accounts associated have been banned.
Yeah it’s way worse, the pronoun thing that people are whining about isn’t even an actual issue. This type of extreme aggression absolutely is. And even though these offenses were committed on an alt and can’t exactly be concretely proven, dragonfucker has committed other offenses on the dragonfucker@lemmy.nz main account, like encouraging trans people to commit murder-suicide and harassment of user and moderator @FlyingSquid@lemmy.world (something I watched happen in front of me). Dragonfucker is a bad person and it’s really upsetting and concerning that most people don’t understand why, instead just complaining about neopronouns.
dragonfucker is known to harass individuals who call them out
The fact that calling them “them” would get your comment deleted is definitely also a problem.
But yeah, this whole mess revolves around one unambiguous asshole. The same crybully keeps coming back with new accounts and new gimmicks to pull the same shit. And it works - because the Blahaj admin takes the most hardline stance possible, and treats all criticism of it as bigotry. So this apparently-unstoppable douchebag just has to whine that someone said “fuck you, troll”, and Ada acts like the rudest part was saying “you.”
As if it’s a slur.
What I think is the worst part is that I’m a queer person, this person has attacked me in various ways as a queer person, and has attacked other queer people. Yet Ada said she just hasn’t seen the evidence, she hasn’t looked at it.
When Ada made that post, and I knew it was about the dragonfucker drama, I never felt more unsafe on a queer friendly instance as a queer person, because I know that if this shit happens again they’ll stand behind dragonfucker, and defend all the lies about how the alt account isn’t actually dragonfucker when I and many other people absolutely know it is.
And the alternative explanation is, hey guess what, your absolute no-questions-asked policy attracts dozens of miserable abusive goblins.
Your mods hate “them” enough to consider moving the one notable community to another instance entirely. This one policy threatens to reduce your instance to an irrelevant niche, because any random asshole can pull ‘did you just assume my gender?!’ trolling, and erase moderators.
This is twords everyone, not specifically pug,
I really don’t understand how this is so hard for people. If calling someone a hippopotamus makes them happy and doesn’t inconvenience me then you bet your ass I’ll be saying hippopotamus. Seems insane to all get so worked up over something that has no negative impact other than making you not mindlessly say ‘they’. Literally just accept it, or block. Downvoting about it every time you see drag isnt gonna fix anything. That’s harassment, and harassment ain’t cool.
Never thought that would be controversial on Lemmy.
I just really think people have lost their ability to see that someone else is on the other side of the computer screen. As the bumper sticker that got mega upvoted goes, “trans people existing does literally nothing negative to your life”
You don’t even have to respect drags opinions either! You can just treat drag like any other person who has a lot of bad takes (excluding gender). My upvote ratio is literally 36 up 32 down, but I’ll still do something as simple as writing ‘drag’ instead of ‘they’ to make the person on the other side of my computer screen just a little bit happier.
Happy new years, btw.
I really don’t understand how this is so hard for people. If calling someone a hippopotamus makes them happy
I can’t speak for everyone about this, but referring to someone as (like in the example that you use) a “hippopotamus” is fine. I personally think of myself as a cat, and though I don’t personally enjoy actually being referred to as such I can understand other people who would and I can accommodate them. My personal wrinkle with this is far more nuanced.
I’m a gender abolitionist. I regard “gender” as a particular aspect of identity that holds cultural significance. I don’t think aspects of identity should be given so much consideration and weight, and I don’t think it’s useful to refer to something as “gender” when it previously hasn’t been, because that makes my goals less achievable. I also don’t think there should be gendered or personalized pronouns, period. I use gendered pronouns because that’s what society expects of me, but these new ones are not only unnecessary the same way gendered pronouns are but also often aestheticly displeasing. For these reasons and others, I get annoyed by neopronouns, especially bespoke ones. Furthermore, I find the idea of pulling more aspects of identity under the nebulous umbrella of “gender” to be regressive.
Hope that helps you understand.
I really don’t understand how this is so hard for people. If calling someone a hippopotamus makes them happy and doesn’t inconvenience me then you bet your ass I’ll be saying hippopotamus.
And if the admins begin removing people who say human beings can’t be hippopotami?
That, for me, was the reason I left/announced leaving. I don’t give a shit about drag, specifically. Drag could be deleted tomorrow and it wouldn’t make a difference. Drag could have been IP banned immediately after Ada started removing comments and it wouldn’t have made a difference to me.
Once “You can’t be a dragon” is considered a sin on par with transphobia, or, by the arguments of some of the Blahaj commenters here, literally the same thing, I’m fucking out. I’ll generally humor people with inoffensive oddities, but when it comes down to “Agree or shut up” about it, I’m not eager to stick around.
