You don’t need an excuse. If you’re at a party and no longer want to be there, say “I have to go now, thanks for the great party” to the host and leave
No one cares why you’re leaving. I’m probably well on the neurotypical end of the spectrum and I’m usually there first in my friend group to leave a party just because parties are late and I wake early. No one complains unless I’m their lift home and they don’t want to leave yet
- “I have to go now, thanks for the great party”
- “Noo c’mooon whyyyy?”
Aaand now I’m stuck between being incredibly blunt, which I don’t like at all, or making up an excuse on the spot (which I suck at)
Better to just make up the excuse beforehand.
neurotypical end of the spectrum
Not how the spectrum works. There’s no “neurotypical” end. Assuming we’re talking about autism, the spectrum refers to the diversity and expression of symptoms, rather than a gauge between “no autism” and “full autism”.
If you meant you are less debilitated by your autism, then the term is “Level 1”, which is just low support needs.
Personally if you tell me you do things because of your astrology bullshit I will hate you much more than if you just say you’re autistic.
You aren’t wrong but, I have a feeling you’re not among the kind of people that the poster is talking about.
The key isn’t in managing whether people like your or not, the key is in not wasting time with followups. If you say you’re on the spectrum, you’ve started a conversation, if you say you’re into astrology, people who believe in it move on and people who don’t have done this before and realized that this is not a conversation they want to have.
Would you ask any follow up questions about astrology or try to get me to stay?
In the past, in parties I just left and didn’t give a fuck . Period. And if anyone asked me later I said I had a great time but at one point it was enough fun.
I used to do what we called backdooring it as in you just leave without telling anybody. That way you don’t have to deal with all the drunk people saying “come on just stay a bit longer” etc.
It’s called the “Irish Exit”, actually, because we’re all sociopaths and have no time for pleasantries. I assume.
I thought the Irish exit is when you’re so drunk you just wander off, coz that’s what I used to do hehe.
Honestly as your run-of-the-mill introvert I wouldn’t even go to a party
