Has everyone read that coverage on the OnlyFans model that had sex with 100 men in under 24h?
I found it a bit disturbing. By her own admission, it was taxing (I’m calling it damaging), physically and mentally, but regardless, she has set her goal to have sex with 1000 men next.
This led me to think, taking this stunt approach out of the picture, if you found an ad looking for participants to achieve a sexual prowess, would you participate in it?
Here are the rules for the scenario I came up.
Some person has set their mind on having sex with 3000 people. May be a woman, may be a man, may be any other in between. Doesn’t matter.
They have set the goal to meet those people throughout an entire year. They want to get to know the people they’ll be having fun with.
There is no money involved, perhaps a home cooked meal at their place, a glass of wine… those are details to be set case to case.
There will be a guest book to sign, at entrance. With a number at the beginning of the line where you will be signing.
You may be the only person for that day, the first, the third or the last. And you will know.
It can be one on one, threesome, perhaps foursome, but no gangbangs.
This isn’t about just penetration but about commiting one or two hours of your life to truly have sex with another human being. Orgasms will be had, linens will be soiled.
This will take years to achieve and you may have to wait your turn. At the end, there will be an after party.
Would you do it?
I wouldn’t.
Generally speaking I don’t like the idea of prowess. In a sexual context, it sounds even worse because I couldn’t be sure of the consent of my partner. Let’s say I’m the 2978th, do they really want to have sex with me, or is it just sunk cost fallacy? (In other words if they quit the challenge now, they “lose” several years dedicated to the challenge)
So, no.
There were a couple of people on fetlife that broke down the applicant process for gangbangs, and made nice flowcharts about how the applicants washed out at different screening steps.
A few hundred applicants filtered down to like 2 or 3% that ended up attending.
1000 people successfully screened would need like 50000 applicants. You are getting into geographic constraints at that point.
Your requirements are almost impossible. 3,000 people over the course of a year is 8/day average. And you want to try to get to know all these people, along with no gangbangs or such? Including having meals, sleeping, etc.
The prompt seems to come from a really rushed place. There’s “throughout… year” contrasted against “will take years” and then you have “want to get to know” contrasted against “threesome, perhaps foursome.” Like, it’s comedy. You’re not getting to know a person inside of two hours, unless it’s specifically in the most limited of biblical sense of knowing. Ask anyone in a long term relationship and it takes months to really know a person, and sexually? Even if you’re the most open of people it’s going to be nearly as long to learn how a person ‘ticks.’
i’m amused by how judgemental this post comes off as in a nsfw sub. i think, much like you shouldn’t claim that something wasn’t damaging for someone else, you probably shouldn’t claim that it was, if they themselves didn’t state it as such. if i were more allosexual, i’d probably be into that, who doesn’t love a lot of fucking lots of people? (obviously some people don’t, but some people do!)
but i understand that you wanted to talk about this thought experiment and that was additional context for where the idea came from
ironically, i think i’d prefer a one night stand, or like, a date / one night stand (share a meal, do an activity and then fuck). i don’t want to get to know someone, bond with them for a YEAR… so they could fuck me once and dip. what the hell LOL that’s so much effort just to know you won’t have any kind of relationship at the end
but like, a time limited thing, let’s hang out for. a day and fuck at the end, then go back to our respective lives? that sounds pretty alright
does it not seem judgement to, when someone says something “was taxing”, to instead interpret that as “damaging”? like, that is a much more severe interpretation (with the possible additional implication that it’s permanent in a way)
especially in a sexual context and especially referring to women, implying someone was “damaged” by something carries a lot of implications
I was tame in my description of everything there was to mention in the article.
But fair is fair. My fault.
Here. Make up your own insight.
But, I’ll risk, when someone, when questioned on how something they went into voluntarily palyed out, breaks down in tears, it is fair to risk things didn’t went so good. And even more so when the person in question says that mid event things started to become mentally challenging.
So, not shaming nor judging. Caring. In my view, that woman suffered abuse.
Even back when I was single, this would be a no. I’m just not into the awkwardness of a one time sex encounter to begin with. Having it also be some kind of forced acquaintance increases that awkwardness to the point that it’s a turn off for me.
Don’t get me wrong, I have hooked up and done one night stands over the years. That’s how I know I wouldn’t enjoy the scenario.
The thing about first time sex with someone is that, without a true connection, it ends up being a job. There’s a lot of work that goes into a mutually enjoyable sex encounter. Figuring out angles, positions, what and how much foreplay, what the hard noes are, etc. Yeah, you can skip that if all you care about is getting yours, but that sucks, it isn’t fun.
Doing all that, for a one time encounter just feels empty and meaningless. Like, why am I going to spend all that time and effort just to fuck someone and go home alone? I’d rather go without an empty sex encounter and spend the same time doing something that’s going to be a good memory.
Again, this is my preference. I have zero objection to folks doing such things if they want to. I’d even be happy for them, if it made them happy. It just isn’t my thing.
I’ve been really impressed that the responses that say no aren’t knee-jerk moralism, and the yesses are about having fun. It really is refreshing to see people staying open minded and not creepy at the same time.
Nope.
Strangely enough, I tried roleplaying with a regular LLM character. I thought I could move past my upbringing and loyalty norms at least in deep simulation. I learned that the loyalty thing is super important to me and that it has nothing to do with misogyny or possession for me. It has to do with friendship, trust, and some deep pains in my early years of life. Intimacy carries meaning to me. I can easily act against that on my own, but it is self effacing.