I posted a day or 2 ago about me and my friend going through it a bit. To sum up: The situation is largely resolved, we had a long in-depth talk about things and cleared the air, we’re still close friends.
It’s just that, during the course of our conversation I told him he’s my closest friend and asked if I was his…and he said no. He said I was close, but not the closest.
I didn’t ask who was, though I think I know. And if that person is indeed the one, I suppose I get it. He lost his mom and my friend helped him through it, and few things bring people closer than overcoming tragedy, which our friendship has largely been free of. This person is a good guy.
I know it seems petty, and I’m trying not to let it bother me, but ngl, no matter how much I try to logic it away in my mind: It hurts.
It hurts to know I’m no one’s #1 friend, and maybe no one’s #1 anything.
why are you counting in the first place?
I was personally able to make peace with this a few years ago.
We are only ever the centre of one universe.
Friendship and relationships are not a leaderboard. You aren’t lesser just because you haven’t achieved “#1”, which is an unhealthy way to think of other peoples closeness with you
It’s definitely not a contest, and friendship isn’t something you should quantify
I know I’m no one’s closest friend. It hurts, I’m sorry.
Wow you have friends? That must be cool.
Jokes aside, cherish it. Friendships get harder to make and maintain as you get older. Relationships between people are by nature messy and rarely dead even. Be happy that you have someone close, and be happy that they do. So long as everyone’s emotional needs are being met, does it really matter by who?
