I dunno, I thought it would be higher. I guess I’m just a slut surrounded by sluts (positive).
What do you think about the number? Does it surprise you? Does it surprise you that it surprises me? Did you expect it to be lower maybe? If so why?

I just find this interesting. No judgement (unless you want that you dirty little gremlin)

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Actually a statistical error, the average person has sex with 0 people. Suck’em Fuck’em Georg, who lives in a cave and fucks 10000 people a day is an outlier and should not have been counted

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but then 10000 people a day have sex, so the average would be closer to .1 if they each only fuck em suck em Georg once in a lifetime if he lived to be 100

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as a proud member of the volcel vanguard i do my best every day to lower this average

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read some discussions further down the thread, it does suck how much having sex matters in this culture. If it werent for that, being a virgin wouldnt bother me in the slightest, since I’m (i think) somewhere on the ace/aro “spectrum” (is that the right word for it?). I do think it’s a shame that “incel” has come to replace “misogynist” in common lingo, because it feels to me in someway also a repackage of “virgin” as insult as well. I will say, the vocel meme is probably one of my favorite things on hexbear, because it helps make feel like less of an outcast, lol

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Interesting post, would’ve never considered how the terms here relate until you said it. Incels deserve the shit, and it’s interesting to consider that we partially identify the cause of their misogyny with their virginity. It’s probably true, but catches the volcel comrades with some Flak on the side.

Incel is still a good insult when it’s a misogynist who WANTS sex but can’t possibly have an intimate partner willingly have sex due to their misogyny. It pisses them off (sometimes) which is funny, and “misogynist” is often something they’re proud of. But next time I use it I’ll throw a "no shade to non-misogynyst and chill virgins*

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I dunno, I thought it would be higher.

Sorry, I’m dragging it down adn shouldn’t not have been counted

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Same here, I’m celibacy georg throwing off the average

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Having sex with -10,000 people every night

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The volcel vanguard salutes you

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I assume you’re just being funny, but on the off-chance that you aren’t: Don’t be sorry for not having sex. People should not think less of you on the base of the amount of sex you have, and you shouldn’t either. Of course that can be hard with all the culture around sex and sexual partners, but please know there is nothing wrong with not fucking.

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People should not think less of you on the base of the amount of sex you have, and you shouldn’t either.

This is a nice thought, but insults based on amount of sex are absurdly common. I have seen quite a few people on this site who still do these insults, and it doesn’t get removed when I report it. The incel article from a while go was about how we should critique incels for their misogyny rather than them failing to have sex, I see this as pretty similar to the arguments about not body-shaming fascists in that most of the people who will get hit by the insult are not the actual target. From what I remember, that article good job explaining why these insults are harmful and how they hurt a lot of people who they really shouldn’t, unfortunately the discussion on that post was very off topic. In my experience, most people who have sex fail to recognize that not everyone who is celibate is an incel (“If so many terrible people have sex and you can’t, that must mean you are worse than they are!”).

I would say that insults based on amount of sex a person has should not be allowed, but I am very pessimistic about this actually leading to a change in site culture.

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I completely agree. I feel the need to point out (in a non hostile way) that that is why I used the word “should”. They shouldn’t, they do, but they shouldn’t.

And yes, I also dislike how incel has become a leftist acceptable way of calling someone a virgin.
I hope it’s okay, but I’ve used you comment in a post asking wether incel should become a no-no word

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Yeah, I was just doing a Spiders Georg bit. However I do sometimes(oftentimes) feel a bit mal baisée, as they say in the baguette language, and although I’m like 99% deprogrammed from mainstream Sex Culture by this point, I still end up worrying about others’ judgment even if I think it’s bunk.

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:yea: it sucks how we get judged for not having enough sex and also for having too much sex. What amount is the right amount of sex? Whichever amount you’re doing will be wrong. Also you could totally be banging someone prettier/they’re only with you because you’re pretty.
Mainstream sex culture sucks. Underground sex culture also sucks, but in different ways.

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it seems like 99% of people are; either that or i’m the hoar of bablyon incarnate. lol

(and i’m practically celibate compared to the men i see at the clubs).

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As a gay man that number is comically low.

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Yeah. The queer community (or at least those I’ve been part of) are part of why I am surprised at the number.

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I think there’s definitely a lot of underreporting too.

Also, no one asked us either, right?

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For the straights I can totally see it. Not even a diss. Just all the gays I’ve known have game. The bisexuals… that skews low on an almost comically ironic way.

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Sitting here at 1 and I’m happy with that, i will not be changing this number as its enough for me. If my bf leaves me no one else would be able to fill in that gap anyway

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Happy for you

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