The evening was going well until a person 15 years younger than me started talking to me about his 2-year-old son. And I think of my life, alone and miserable playing the loser.

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Kids are not a definition of success. So many people are not fit to be parents and only realize it after it’s too late and have major regret.

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Children are people, not status symbols for their parents.

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Also, they’re not a requirement for happiness. In fact, I can guarantee my life will be happier without them.

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Man, I feel you. I try not to compare myself to other people and their lives but I still get jealous and envious. Especially when someone younger is doing so much better than me. I highly encourage you to dream about what you can still do and not what you could have. You can’t change the past but you can still steer the ship I guess.

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That guy was trying to impress/flex on people 15 years his senior by doing such great things as checks notes jizzing in a lady 2 years and 9-ish months ago. You’re not a loser, just on a different path. The best part is it’s never too late to change course, choose another path, but the thing that matters most is finding satisfaction with whatever path you’re on.

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There’s no reason to think the person was flexing. They were probably just conversing. And OP would probably love to have children of their own. It’s normal to feel bad in such situation without there being a bad guy. OP, I feel with you and hope you’ll find joy in whatever your life brings.

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Sons don’t stay forever with their parents. Eventually his son would leave him and establish a family elsewhere with occasional visits from time to time.

Joining a community would be the solution for loneliness but also can consider pets in addition or you could go as far as adopting a son if u can’t have one

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