Shrimp are cool
Source: https://youtu.be/UXWckTAw3JY (Saltwater shrimp depicted here but it’s from monterey and they are still cool in their own way)
Caring for others is good for you. Even if you look at it selfishly, it is still true.
Having “chores” associated with those people or things you care for is also good for you.
Think of the memes and the stories of tech workers turning into goose farmers. It’s not a beautiful-feeling idea because goose farms have better air conditioning and more expensive chairs, lol.
Coincidentally, I plan to head off to my engineering job like usual tomorrow morning, but I am also sitting here with frozen fingertips because I was outside cleaning the filters in my koi pond for the first time this spring. In general, it seems like the more animals we get (we have a lot, in small suburban home) the messier my physical surroundings are but the clearer my brain is.
Edit to add: an unsung benefit of such hobbies and obligations is the ability to go deep into learning about things that interest you, without having to worry about taking a test about it. It can be very satisfying and enriching for the ADHD brain. In my case, from high school science onwards I was way into physics & electricity and turned hard away from chemistry and biology. But now I could talk all day about everything behind that “cycled tank” line in the OP. Likewise, my high school chemistry teacher told us horror stories about organic chemistry, but now it genuinely interests me because I care about oxidation of organics in my water.
Caring for others is good for you. Even if you look at it shellfishly, it is still true.
Had to.
“If you can’t be handsome, be interesting. If you can’t be interesting, be useful.”
I can’t remember who said it but it seems to fit here.
He said: "If the women don’t find you handsome, they should at least find you handy. "
kind of cute story
do it for the animals that depend on you
a good message all around
papa bless
that’s a ponzi scheme.
You have depression so you have 3-4 children to take care of. Then these children have depression again, again needing to have 3-4 children each to have some fun again. In the end, after 5 generations, you end up with 300 grand-grand-grand-grandchildren, and there is no more space, and they are stuck, and have to live with their depression.
Congratulations, you just multiplied your depression by about 300.
Kids are a really big commitment in a different way because of the psychological and cognitive needs of the child, and it would be a lot better for the kiddos if the parents have their spoons together before the kid arrives. It can be very chaotic and damaging for the child if the parent is getting their stuff together during the developmental periods. This especially goes for pregnancy because mental illness and substance use during pregnancy can seriously affect fetal development in some cases and it can even lead to miscarriage or stillbirth if things aren’t sorted out fast enough.
So, maybe having kids might be more viable for fathers, but it’s still not a great idea because disengaged fathers can be damaging to both the baby and the mother.
I adopted an old dogfrom the shelter a few years ago and I always said that it turned my life around
