I don’t get it. Everywhere I look there is this discussion about getting into a relationship, getting gfs/bfs and constantly chasing after it. And I’m not doing anything of it. I never paid attention to such stuff. During my teenage years, I thought it was normal attraction which people cave into and pursued such things. But now in my 20s, the same thing I observe, if not a little bit more than I used it. People getting sad because they are not finding someone. People being happy because they have one for themselves.
I’m not that career focused either. I just mind my own business. If it’s studying or working, I just mind that. I do nothing like checking out girls in my school/workplace like my peers do. Maybe I’m just scared to pursue such things. I also think having a relationship is a huge headache too. Meeting them, making them happy, going out with them regularly. (I don’t go out myself where will I take her to?). All of this while doing your daily stuff.
Am I wrong thinking to put career first before I get into relationships and stuff?
Depends on your priorities. Nothing inherently wrong with that.
Nothing is wrong at all with that. For me I was in a relationship, but everyone started having kids and I didn’t. I realized I didn’t really want kids anyway and pushed on.
Now, I’m a big fan of “relationships aren’t sought after”, that you don’t just go out and find one, but rather it happens by chance, or randomly. So I’d say maybe be open to it if it comes across? And that’s also because the longer you wait the harder it is.
nothing at all is wrong with building a career first if that is what you want to do. It is your life after all.
Do what makes you happy
Neither are a requirement for life, although you generally need at least one of the two.
Relationships are work, although the good ones only feel like work when there are conflicts and challenges. Even then, a good partner is a net benefit as two can accomplish more things than one.
Careers are kind of a nebulous series of jobs, which may or may not be a linear progression. They do generally reault in increasing income faste than inflation over time, but not always. Someone can switch caeers at any time, or just have a series of jobs, or even find a way to make money in a way that may or may not be considered a career.
Being in a relationship can also result in not needing to work at all if the single income of the other person is high enough.
So you should set your priorities based on your goals and what you want to put effort into. If that is a career now, you will have that established when looking for a relationship. If you chose a relationship, it may or may not help with a career or you may not need to pursue one. Whichever one you choose may end up getting switched at any point during your life because of accidents or incompatability so the most important thing is to focus on whichever you choose and if an opportunity for the other happens to pop up don’t ignore it if you want both eventually.
