I’m thinking about proposing to my girl, however we both think diamonds as a standard is stupid and overrated, we both prefer much more colorful and comparatively cheaper gemstones like rubies and sapphires, but I’m having trouble finding a good place for that, I’ve never done this before, any ideas?
Consider “moissanite”. Beautiful manufactured gemstones that look very much like diamonds but are a fraction of the price.
They don’t just look like diamond; chemically they’re extremely similar, too. Diamond is just a bunch of carbon atoms covalently bonded together into a 3D crystal, which is why they’re so incredibly hard. Moissanite is basically the same but it’s carbon and silicon atoms mixed together. Silicon has the same number of valence electrons, so it can function similarly chemically as carbon, hence why it works. Thus, moissanite is also extremely hard and refracts light in beautiful ways, too, except imo even more beautifully. Instead of a colorless luster, it’s a subtle rainbow luster to moissanite.
Source: I got my fiancée a moissanite ring, and it’s lovely. And because it’s lab-made, I got her blue moissanite (the coloring is just from adding certain impurities) that matches our cat’s eyes perfectly. It’s way more unique, cheaper, and more ethical than diamond, but doesn’t sacrifice on quality one bit.
I got my wife’s engagement ring off Etsy. It’s “smokey topaz” and the exact style she wanted, and was very inexpensive. She loves it.
Second for Etsy, that’s where I got both of my wife’s rings and she loves them.
Thirded for etsy. i went with simple bands of high quality metals. Silver at first then gold for the tenth. They’re quite attractive.
We got a tungsten band with sapphires from Etsy. She hunted the web to find exactly what she wanted; custom made to her size and a fraction of the cost of diamonds.
Find a custom jeweller. I wanted to get my wife’s ring remade after 10 years, and it was far less expensive than I expected. And they can give you great ideas.
I have a moissonite ring, but it looks very much like a diamond. If you’re looking for something different, I would check antique stores or estate sales to look for a second hand gem. You can always have it put in a new setting if the ring is too dated for your tastes.
My wife’s engagement ring is also Moissanite and she loves it. It looks like a $20k ring to anyone but a jeweler (honestly I regret going with as big of a stone as I did, but my wife loves it), but I “only” spent $2.5k on it
Plus Moissanite is harder and has a higher brilliance than diamond. A great alternative for people who don’t want to waste money on diamonds, but still want a “traditional” ring
I’m holding a 25mm moissanite that I bought for fun because it’s the roughly the same size as the hope diamond and it was $250 without a certificate. There’s a ton of competition now so prices have started dropping. A 10mm is ~3.9ct and the loose gem is < $100 on the first link. The rest is just the cost of the ring. Adding silicon to the carbon makes it slightly softer, but significantly less prone to cracking which was a common failure point.
Regarding OPs original question, it’s very hard to verify things online. I’m barely a hobbyist so I can’t make recommendations, but be aware a lot of glass is shipped from India. The best you can do is be sure to read reviews and try to do your due difference. A lot of gems can be grown in labs but if you are investing in hardware, you are going to grow diamonds (moissanite) because they have the highest value. If you do opt into a traditional ring, certificates for moissanite are not the same as diamonds. They are closer to receipts to verify what it is, and you typically want to see the certificate id engraved into the stone.
It still seems fucking insane to me to spend 2,5k on a ring but you do you.
Yes, my stone is a full carat because my husband wanted a round number I guess haha. Anyway, it does look rather opulent given our economic status, but I Iike it and it fit his budget.
I’m gonna chime in to also recommend Etsy. There are a lot of great quality producers and not only craft-table-in-the-corner-hobbyists who sell things on Etsy. That would be the first place I’d look. Etsy product reviews are pretty reliable as well.
