I’m just going to share an experience by saying that I have a younger brother (not namedropping anything) and I have regarded him in most of my life in a neutral-leaning-negative light, he’s annoying sure, but he’s not like really shit, or at least, I had until he started calling me a “black person”, “blackie”, and “monkey” (which I’m pretty sure is often compared with to black people in a really dehumanizing light) just to get a rise out of me, which first of all, is not accurate at all (I’m Asian), and second, it sounds like he was being genuinely racist against Africans just to piss me the hell off, “at the very least he isn’t saying slurs” I thought to myself, months later, he recently started calling me the fucking N-word, really, really casually, just to piss me the fuck off, I don’t know if he’s being genuinely racist or just wanting to get a reaction out of me (I’m 75% sure it’s the latter), but even then, using slurs just to get a reaction out of someone is tasteless at best, and outright derogatory at worst.
I’m just curious if anyone else has experienced the same thing as me.
Teens and preteens do stupid shit. Have a conversation with your brother about why those words are hurtful and not funny and how they would reflect on him outside of the house if he continues to use them and they become part of his daily lexicon
as an older sibling it is your god-given right to beat his ass until he stops being a bigot (ironically or otherwise)
but to answer your question yes, i have seen this from The Kids. in the case of the one i know she at least admitted what she was saying was shitty and backtracked immediately when called out. she’s also 9 so like, a simple admonishment was enough.
I think it would be more weird if they didn’t. Silbilings, in my experience, usually insult each other and latch on to whatever worst/tasteless thing they can find; “fatty”, “crippled”, etc. I’ve seen plenty of silbilings regularly say “I hate you” and “go die”.
Most* of those same silbilings grow up to be good friends later in life because there’s a difference between actual hate and just saying it all the time. That said, if the insults are actual spiteful hate, and not purely because of rivalry, then I’d say that’s rare and an actual problem. And I don’t think there’s a way to tell the difference over internet comments.
You can test it a little bit by saying something like “[Terrible Asian person] isn’t black”. If your silbiling thinks it’ll annoy you they’ll say “yeah they’re not”; which will at least tell you it’s not racism. However, if they think the opposite will annoy you then, yeah, they’re going to say “yeah they are” and it’ll still be unclear.
So like, what had are we talking about and are parents involved?
Not to advocate violence but if I had a younger sibling say shit like that to me, hands would be thrown. I’ve almost slapped a nephew before for constantly giving attitude to my mother. I am typically a very no confrontational and non-violent person but I do not take that kind of stuff lightly. I’m more impressed with you for keeping your cool this long. People do this and when they get away with it it only makes them think it’s ok.
That’s pretty yikes. I have no experience with something like this, sorry.
