So recently I feel like I don’t fit in anymore, like the world is turning around in shame to me. Help?
Im sorry you are feeling bad right now. Life ebbs & flows, things will lighten up & get easier on you, try to be patient.
If it helps, I see at least one downvote on pretty much any post with more than 10 upvotes, regardless of the content. So don’t take it personally. And I hope your day gets better. Some days are just shitty, and that’s ok. Just do what needs to be done on those days, try to be nice to people, and look forward to the better days that will definitely come.
You should really stop worrying about what others do and think. You can’t and will never control that. It’ll stress you out more then you know. Just enjoy the good things around you.
Goes for this comment, and you original post.
If it makes you feel any better, plenty of people who don’t have autism also feel like losers.
Yep. Your feelings are authentic and meaningful, but are not unique.
Edit not sure why I was downvoted, OP asked for clarification and I provided it. Many people from all walks of live feel like a loser. They matter.
Most people have to try really hard it fit into the world, even those who don’t have Autism. What you see especially online is their highlight reel, what they don’t show you is all the stress and effort it takes them to fit in and keep up with everybody else.
The good part is that once you’re aware of the above it’s easier to just do your own thing instead of trying to fit whatever you perceive as supposedly normal.
Welcome to the world. Everyone turns away from those who are different. But you shouldn’t determine your worth as a person based on what the world does, but on what YOU do. More importantly, you are a person worthy of love and respect. Everyone is since they are born.
A big thing that helped me is knowing that, even if nobody knows what it is like to be me, specifically, everything I have ever felt and experienced has been felt and experienced by at least one other person, somewhere. Feelings are far more universal that we realize as we are feeling them, and no matter how alone you feel, there are other people with that same feeling.
This isn’t meant to minimize your experience. In fact, it enhanced mine. By realizing that a lot of people feel the same feelings as me, it helped me communicate better. Even if I have a hard time identifying the name of a feeling, describing it in general terms opens a new point of communication that can bridge a lot of gaps.
For example, I have been able to go to a friend group and explain that, while jokes are okay, a particular joke made me feel unwelcome, and explained why. The fact that I felt excluded stopped being seen as a barrier, and instead it was the thing that started the conversation about the joke, why it was made, and it helped both parties learn some context for next time.
Even if it doesn’t work in your current situation, it can help in similar, future situations by helping you avoid this feelings trap in the future. It has certainly helped me a lot.
