So recently I feel like I don’t fit in anymore, like the world is turning around in shame to me. Help?
Im sorry you are feeling bad right now. Life ebbs & flows, things will lighten up & get easier on you, try to be patient.
If it helps, I see at least one downvote on pretty much any post with more than 10 upvotes, regardless of the content. So don’t take it personally. And I hope your day gets better. Some days are just shitty, and that’s ok. Just do what needs to be done on those days, try to be nice to people, and look forward to the better days that will definitely come.
You should really stop worrying about what others do and think. You can’t and will never control that. It’ll stress you out more then you know. Just enjoy the good things around you.
Goes for this comment, and you original post.
It’s definitely a horrible feeling. Actually feeling this a lot right now myself. But for me it’s not shame rather it’s more I just don’t fit in anywhere and can’t relate to anyone.
Get a furball! 🐈❤️
And don’t feel bad for “not fitting in” all the time.
Nobody can be who they want all the time!
Try to shape your world and make it one that fits you. Curate it so that the things which make you uncomfortable are no longer around.
A big thing that helped me is knowing that, even if nobody knows what it is like to be me, specifically, everything I have ever felt and experienced has been felt and experienced by at least one other person, somewhere. Feelings are far more universal that we realize as we are feeling them, and no matter how alone you feel, there are other people with that same feeling.
This isn’t meant to minimize your experience. In fact, it enhanced mine. By realizing that a lot of people feel the same feelings as me, it helped me communicate better. Even if I have a hard time identifying the name of a feeling, describing it in general terms opens a new point of communication that can bridge a lot of gaps.
For example, I have been able to go to a friend group and explain that, while jokes are okay, a particular joke made me feel unwelcome, and explained why. The fact that I felt excluded stopped being seen as a barrier, and instead it was the thing that started the conversation about the joke, why it was made, and it helped both parties learn some context for next time.
Even if it doesn’t work in your current situation, it can help in similar, future situations by helping you avoid this feelings trap in the future. It has certainly helped me a lot.
