: Shea butter, cat meows and purrs, good tweezers. Good mantras, “you are a strong woman.” Acceptance therapy. Panty liners. Good underwear. Remember who you are and what you’re working towards. PMS effects trans people too.

Sorry but I’m gonna focus on the bigger stuff:

Learn to listen to yourself, especially during the social transition. People whom you respect will try to convince you otherwise and the more you listen to them the longer you’ll remain dead.

And also that we as a people with a shared experience provide a lot of value for society due to our hard earned experience. Sometimes I feel there’s this silly debate going on, as if there’s some kind of problem. But truthfully we can show everyone what self acceptance looks like, and that’s important for everyone.

Fetish fashion stores are a good place to start with trying on female clothing. It’s an accepting atmosphere and the employees are likely to support and help you with love. Wearing something sexy is incredibly empowering as a woman.

Hopefully you can then work up the guts to visit a makeup store and ask for advice. More expensive stores like Chanel will be more private and professional and have someone attend to you personally. You can take a friend with you. And be prepared to put down good money for some basics. But it’s worth it. Get some close to natural looking eye shadow, mascara and lip stick, so you don’t have to be so precise at first. Use day light and check out a few YouTube videos. The first few times you’ll put more mascara on your nose and in your eyeballs than on your lashes.

Get your ears pierced at a proper piercing studio or jeweler that has piercing equipment. Can’t go wrong there!

Get a large long mirror. Try different ways of walking in front of it.

Also at least for me the first medical step was hair removal. And from the hair lady I heard it’s quite typical to start there, often without a diagnosis. At least where I live you don’t need a diagnosis to get healthcare coverage. Like sure the whole process without blockers takes like 30 sessions, but even just a single session will feel so much better because shaving is easier and faster. So if you’re poor and have no coverage it might still be worth the 100 euro for one session. Also for the pain I recommend praying in Latin.

Some smaller stuff: Use micellair water with those pads to clean your face twice a day. In the morning always put on spf facial cream after to keep it moisturized and protect from the sun. Always. And you can get another cream for at night. That way your skin will be clearer and it’s important for makeup, because without it it’ll be bumpy for some reason.

Get some fancy hair products. For example at a good hair salon. Especially if you have curly hair. Say it costs you 100 euro, ja it’s expensive but it’ll last you a year so basically you’re paying like 8 euro a month for nice hair. Look up the curly girl method. Only wash it when it’s genuinely dirty or if it doesn’t listen to you any more, so once a week or less.

I struggled a bit with injections but found that if I cough while stabbing I don’t really notice the pain.

The pain isn’t really a big deal but knowing I have a trick around the pain helps to make it all less of a big thing to do that day

So, uh… I’m a cis guy, but I kinda wonder if maybe you girls have any tips that could make my face look less fat when I go clean shaven. I think I look fine with my beard; without it, my face looks so much fatter than with the beard. I wanna look more feminine, but just in the face.

Get your eyebrows shaped! They change the framing of your face so much and nobody ever talks about it.